To want my 9week old in a routine

[Housequeen101]

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My 9 week old has a dairy allergy and reflux. She’s on special milk and doesn’t agree with the reflux medicine so she doesn’t have anything for her reflux.

Of an evening she has a bath at 6.30 then a bottle and sleeps in her cot downstairs with us, she doesn’t normally wake for a feed, we go to bed at 11 so at 11 she has a bum change then taken upstairs for a bottle. She then wakes at around 3 has a bottle then is awake for 2 hours, I have to rock her until she falls asleep, the night feeds I can deal with but not being up for 2 hours. She doesn’t have a decent sleep during the day as the second I put her down she’s bolt awake, I have another DC so she can’t sleep on me all day.

I’m thinking a routine might help her during the night, what’s your routines?

Was thinking of putting her to sleep in her cot upstairs, after her bath so we don’t have to wake her when we go up to bed, do you think she’s too young for this?

Thanks

Gina Ford

My d's was a NICU baby so was definitely in a routine - the 3 hourly 'cares' went on until he was nearly a year.

The amount of times I explained to my mother that that was just his set way when she said he should be sleeping through made me want to throttle her!

Routines aren't always for the best as they're then hard to break is what I'm trying to say

An angel care mat is not a substitute for following safe sleep guidelines - the mat will only alert you once the baby has already stopped breathing and it’s too late.

The reason they advise a baby should sleep in the same room as you is because they regulate their breathing from yours.

Can’t you just keep the baby downstairs with you whilst you have your evening?

Rosyprimroseface
Where have I given the impression I find my baby an inconvenience? Haven’t asked for advice on her reflux it’s being managed the best it can. Obviously I didn’t think she’d sleep through the night etc I don’t live in the clouds. And yes as I said, my first born was an amazing sleeper from 6 weeks so this is all new to me. I also have asked for any advice on my bedtime but thanks! Haven’t mentioned leaving her to cry on her back either, maybe re read my post.

Matilda - she’s been placed on 4 different types of medication for reflux but they’ve all given her such bad constipation (as I’m having to go hospital for a suppository) so we feed her sitting up and keep her upright for atleast 25mins after a feed, her bouncer upright and having her mattress slightly higher at the top end etc tbh as she’s getting older it’s getting better, thank you 😊

Soon worked. Daughter took to it immediately and was sleeping from dream feed to 7am from 7 weeks.

I think the key words there are "took to it immediately". Some kids are susceptible to routines, others are not. It's very naive to think the same would happen with all babies.

I would:
Gradually change the feed times until the last bottle is 8.00. Then put to sleep upstairs after this
Stop the bum change at 11
Introduce a dream feed at 11-11.30
Feed if she wakes in the night but with lights down and no interaction at all
Get her up in the morning at 8am if she's still sleeping

I'd go with the flow for a few more weeks, 9 weeks is tiny.

I had it the opposite way to you - DC1 didn't sleep through for 3 pigging years; DC2 slept through by 12 weeks. I'm still tired now and the little horror is almost eleven!

YABU! She's 9 weeks old!

All three of my babies followed a routine from the day they came out of hospital. I don't believe in letting a tiny baby dictate its own routine and think this baby-led nonsense is the road to madness.
I would like to pinpoint the time in the last 10-15 years when completely losing yourself to your baby became the norm, and wanting adult time was scoffed at and reviled.
I also happen to think that a lot of the sleeping problems that seem to be so prevalent today are caused by lack of routine and bad habits, encouraged by parents who dare not do anything their baby appears not to 'like'.