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to want this bastard to be told to get lost

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:20

Here

Sweet Jesus I wish we were as 'unlucky' as this man. What I wouldn't give fo dh to have been misdiagnosed.

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ScoobyDooooo · 08/05/2007 15:21

MB i agree i saw him on tv this morning & he was annoying me.

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littlelapin · 08/05/2007 15:21

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:23

Had his chemo today (infusion day) so tonight will be the test. He has taken some more antiemetics today, so we'll see how it goes. Good news in that the scan shoes that the tumours have not grown over 3 months

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LilyLoo · 08/05/2007 15:23

I agree too mb. I saw it in the paper yesterday. Would you really care if you had been one of the few who was lucky enough to have been misdiagnosed. He is a joke tbh and now he is sueing an already massively overstretched nhs, good man

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DarrellRivers · 08/05/2007 15:25

i saw him on the news yesterday and I thought of your DH MB and how happy any number of people would be pleased to be in his shoes
Can't he just count himself lucky the whinging man

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Lauriefairycake · 08/05/2007 15:31

Well....I think 'bastard' is a bit strong but I didn't see him on tv, I've only read the article you linked to.

I think he will ultimately feel happy that he is going to live but is probably consumed with anger about being misdiagnosed. If I try and imagine what that would be like for me I think it would be very distressing because:

  1. I would spend my life insurance money on enjoying the world with my family in those last few months.......and then I'd probably have to pay it back


2. And I wouldn't then ever be able to get life insurance again - so family would be pretty screwed if I then subsequently died suddenly

3. And I would prepare the family and spend my whole time getting ready to 'die' and then feel very disorientated psychologically when I was then going to live - probably get post traumatic stress or something

and I think I can imagine that I would initially be angry
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Lauriefairycake · 08/05/2007 15:33

And... i didn't realise you were actually ill .....so now I feel like a right twonk.


Sorry

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KathyMCMLXXII · 08/05/2007 15:34

I see where Laurie is coming from but then the sad thing is that there are so many people now whose anger (whether reasonable or not) seems to translate into suing people.
So ironic that (even if he doesn't have much of a case) his suing the NHS will result in LESS money to spend on people who need it.

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:34

I'm not ill, my husband is dying on the cancer this man has been lucky enough to escape. My children are 7 and 10, dh was given 3-6 months to live. I'd change places in a heartbeat.

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CuriousSquid · 08/05/2007 15:36

MB, i saw this this morning and hoped u hadn't seen it

I can understand his anger and even his wanting his money back that he spent but there was no other outcome from his test apprently and he seems to hold within himself, the cure for cancer! If that was me, my sense of relief would be enourmous!

Great news about the tumours not growing MB. I know you would rather hear that they are shrinking but its great ews nonetheless.

Lauriefairycake, bastard is a much politer word than the ones i used when i saw it this morning

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LilyLoo · 08/05/2007 15:36

Exactly Martian i wonder if he would feel differently if he spent a day in your dh shoes or took a trip to see what valuable resources his 'payout' could buy for people like your dh. Sometimes people are so bloody selfish.

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:38

I saw two other dting men this afternoon, who would love this sort of bad luck.

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KathyMCMLXXII · 08/05/2007 15:40

I thought his comment ?I am seeking compensation for what we have lost and to help everyone out at Treliske [Hospital] so they don?t have to go through what I did." was a little disingenuous.

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tigerschick · 08/05/2007 15:41

Totally agree mb. Haven't read the article but heard him on Jeremy Vine and I want to know what he expected his wife to live on after he died?! Selfish doesn't get near!

So pleased that you have some good news on your dh at last. Hoping there is lots more to come.

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ungratefuldaughter · 08/05/2007 15:41

if he splashed out on family and friends perhaps they could have a whip round and help him out now

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:41

Is a 'little disengenous' a euphamism for utter bullshit????

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KathyMCMLXXII · 08/05/2007 15:43

Yes MN

Actually I could be wrong - he might not be lying , just be being very very stupid.

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tissy · 08/05/2007 15:43

Bl**dy hell!

I hope he gets laughed out of court!

If I was told I was dying , I wouldn't blow the lot, I would try and make sure that my affairs were in order, so that my family weren't left in debt. He "stopped paying the mortgage" FGS! Did he think that the life insurance would pay up before his wife was evicted from the house? What if he lived a bit longer than expected, and he the bank foreclosed on the mortgage before he died, would he have played the "you wouldn't evict a dying man" card? He was seriously irresponsible, and I don't think the hospital should pay him a penny.

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KathyMCMLXXII · 08/05/2007 15:43

MB I mean, not MN

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fryalot · 08/05/2007 15:44

totally agree.

He's an arse of the highest order and I hope the court tell him in no uncertain terms to
fuck off

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IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:51

i would be very annoyed at the doctors who said he had cancer but at the same time be thankful they got it wrong. material things come and go but without your health you can't enjoy ya life to the full if that makes sense.

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wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 08/05/2007 15:54

oh yeh I saw him on news24 last night - what an arse. they're saying he wasn't mis diagnosed though? and that presented with the evidence, ie the tumour etc the diagnoses would have been the same. can't believe he stopped paying his mortgage etc.

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:58

When I think of the hours that dh has spent, sorting out our finances so that we will be OK 'after' it makes me want to spit.

Yes, we have done things that we wouldn't have otherwise, a great holiday in Eurodisney, for example, But if they told me that dh would live, I'd be delighted. This arse deserves to be dropped in the middle of the oncology unit I spent the afternnon in, and explain his case to all the people in there who are dying of the same disease.

Stupid cunt!

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fryalot · 08/05/2007 15:59

wannabe - quick hijack, sorry - what happened with your eyes? I remember you saying that there was weird stuff happening and I didn't catch any other threads about it. Hope you don't mind me asking

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