I want to strangle DH...

[oblada]

He constantly leaves the doors opened when he steps out (outside) and no amount of 'nagging' makes any difference!!! Why?? Today we came home, he was bringing in the shopping in, I was tidying it, the front door was open, fair enough as it's a quick job going from car to house etc... But then he started tinkering with his bike and left the front door opened until I closed it (after realising how cold the house was)...he was out for 50minutes!!
And tonight he seems to be in and out in the garden (not sure why as it's bloody cold) and I came downstairs after putting kids to bed to find nobody in, back door open and of course I'm freezing!! I went to look for him and couldn't see him in the garden so it wasn't a 2second job!! It's annoying me! Yes it's petty and small and insignificant but I'm cold and tired so surely I can be annoyed! What do you think and what does your DH do that (v reasonably) annoys you no end?

Is this meant to be light-hearted? because I'd honestly be consulting a divorce lawyer over a lot of these.

Some of these things appeared on my divorce papers

My ex would somehow get poo at the back edge of the seat. All I can figure he would be sitting too far back. I was too embarrassed to bring it up to him. So wrong not clean it off himself!

I know this is mostly lighthearted but what I wouldn't give to have all these things to complain about. My DH passed away a few years ago.

@Bluntness100 - mum is that you😂

I just call my DH half a job bob
-pulls laundry from the dryer so it can sit in the basket for a week
-stacks dishwasher after dinner. Anything that doesn't fit in dishwasher sits for me to clean up. And he doesn't wipe the counters!
-says "I'll cook dinner tonight" (YAY!) then i get "honey can you boil the potatoes/marinade the meat/just watch that for 5 minutes need to check the cricket scores"...

Bless him at least he tries

Tiggy 💐. It’s hard isn’t it. My Mum says the same & I feel the same when people are complaining about something trivial their Dad’s do that annoy them.

...it doesn’t stop the things my Mum does annoying me though. 😖

...even though I know one day I’ll wish she was still driving me batshit!

Sorry Tiggy78 I’m sure you miss him.

Tiggy - it is lighthearted and ultimately the same could be said about loads of things in life. We complain until some real crap happens and it puts things in perspective. That's just how things are.
My DH is a pain but I certainly wouldn't get rid of him.
Sorry for your loss though

I love my husband but he drives me to distraction.

I want to know how on earth he can cook 2 slices of toast and make the kitchen look like a bomb has gone off?? He rarely cooks even though he's a great cook because I just know the mess he leaves in his wake will be apocalyptic and will take me an hour to clean up from. He'll "try" to clean up and it'll be pointless as he'll load the dishwasher in such a way that half of what needs to go in won't fit and I'll have to re-do it anyway.

Same here for the cleaning! DH is a great cook but God the mess!! He cleans but he doesn't see many things. So I'll have to go after him to clean splatters all over the worktop and cupboards etc that he has 'missed'... I don't mind too much as he does cook well and I love the food but it can be frustrating.
He does make fab pancakes every Sunday so that makes up for a lot :)

LittleLightsShineBright - haha ! i suppose we all have annoying habits... well i am perfect but thats beside the point!

Mostly DH is lovely and pulls his weight. I have just managed to train him out of leaving his clothes drawers open all the frigging time, but there are a few others that I am trying to put up with because I'm sure he has a few niggles with me but is far too laid back and patient to bring up:

• He has about 15 million coats and around 10 million of them seem to need to be in circulation at any one time. We don't have a coat rack, so the coats will be shoved over chairs, sofas, beds, desks, tables, you name it. Drives me barmy.
• Shoes left in the hallway for me and DDog to trip over.
• Seems to be incapable of actually looking for anything himself. Always asks me where something is when it is literally ALWAYS in the same place as last time. This is particularly annoying when he's supposed to be cooking while I'm finishing up work for the night, so my work is constantly interrupted by things like 'where's the soy sauce?' or 'Are we out of butter?' when if he'd just open the bloody cupboard or fridge he'd SEE the sauce and butter right there!

And breathe...

OhWhatFuckery

“Uses grapefruit spoons instead of teaspoons when making coffee.”

That is the most MN marital complaint I’ve ever heard on the many years I’ve been on here

• Takes forever to get round to ironing his shirts, and then needs basically an entire day to actually iron them as he seems to take an hour on each one
• Leaves his stuff in everyone's way then moans endlessly that the cleaner or I has 'hidden' it because it's been moved 6 inches away.
• Only reads his post every 3 months, organises it into piles and then doesn't file it away for another three months. He has actually been getting a bit better about this.

Mine starts jobs that do not need doing and doesn't finish them! So rather than doing the hoovering or taking out the bins, which actually need doing, he'll decide to rearrange the cupboards and leave all the cupboard stuff on the sides then move onto something else. Drives me up the wall

Queen tbf, I didn't buy them I got them from my mum. You should see what he does with the snail forks though. 😉

Oh I'm sure if he was still here I'd be complaining away about him myself. I know this is lighthearted and I shouldn't have commented. Was feeling particularly maudlin last night and posted without really thinking about it.

Aghhhh my DP goes mental over this, he’s obsessed with ensuring all of the doors are always kept shut in the house to ‘keep the warmth in’ .

But he does so many annoying things it hurts. He leaves wet towels on the floor, puts his shoes in the doorway, leaves packages from coffee sachets or teabags on the side WHEN THE BIN IS UNDERNEATH WHERE THE KETTLE IS, makes the biggest mess known to mankind whenever he cooks and doesn’t tidy any of it up, leaves dishes ‘to soak’ when I ask him to wash up so I end up doing it . Men.

Oh god
Takes aaaaages in the toilet (And leaves skid marks ugh)
Crumbs in the butter
Never cleans the sink out after rinsing off plates, pans etc
Takes the hand towel off the rail to dry his hands then just plonks it back on top of the rail all screwed up
Takes the toilet roll off the holder to use then leaves it on top of the radiator
Leaves dirty clothes on the floor, never puts them in the washing basket
Falls asleep mid conversation in bed (no objection to him being tired and wanting to sleep but let me know so I don't keep talking. He is wide awake one minute and then bam he's asleep)
I'm sure there is more!
I do love him honest lol

Do any of you realise how controlling you all sound?

Why do your partners have to do everything your way?

Maybe if you stopped treating them like children and realised that they live there too, you'd have less to bitch about!

For me it wasn't about doing things different ways - I'm capable of compromise. It was more about him creating mess, wasting things, and doing things incompetently in a way that caused more work. (The scrunched-up wet towels is a classic example - they don't get dry, they start to smell, they need washing sooner.) And never dealing with any of this himself, so his actions caused either an unbearable mess for us all to live in, or lots of work for me if I wanted habitable surroundings. Skid marks on the toilet, shoes and socks thrown all over the front room, piles of dirty pants all over the bedroom, kitchen things used and left on the side, empty packets back in the cupboard, and on and on. Let that go on for more than a few days and it becomes hard to function in your home.

That's not about doing things differently, it's about being lazy and stupid and making life harder for your spouse.

I did worry that I was being "controlling" by asking him to pull his weight. Because yes, I was expecting and requiring him to do something he didn't want to do. But what's the alternative? Just be an uncomplaining little wifey and do everything? That's not an option for me and not something I wanted to demonstrate to my DC.

In the end LTB was the only thing I could do.

Gosh..all sounds so irritatingly familiar!
Doors left open wherever he roams..
Cupboard doors, front door, back door you name it
King of distraction & faff..can't do a simple job without getting distracted by something innane along the way..
Ten minutes in his world...is really an hour...and everything...only takes ten minutes
Has to be instructed on the A to Z of simple requests...giving DD a bath, required clear instructions on washing top half as well as bottom half!!
Needs reminding 59 times when asked to do something...never replies to people's messages or remembers conversations he has had.
Have often wondered whether he is on the spectrum of something...but I'd better not venture down that road!

When DP goes to the shop he never brings back what you've asked for but a bag of random shite. He forgets so easily that I've started writing lists, even when it's two items he's guaranteed to get one wrong. I wrote 'milk, bread' came home with milk, a scratch card, chocolate and a plastic bloody rose. No bread.
AND he will ask me where something is, I'll explain, he looks and shouts it's not here! I'll look and it'll be exactly where I said it was. Every single time.
Other than that he's bloody amazing and I consider myself very lucky to have someone like him. He's more of a feminist than me and has supported me through some really awful stuff so I'll let him off with the above behaviours. Plus he's a great Dad. I don't like slagging him off so I need to rebalance it with compliments.
He can be infuriating though.

looselipsinkships - yes, I call that the 'man look' - the ability to look at something but not see it!

@kubex - chill out it's lighthearted 😄