...to think ‘Resting Can I Help You? Face’ is a real thing?

[Bebepoor]

And does not receive the attention it deserves.

Honestly. Strangers ask for directions and tell me about their health problems. Acquaintances pour out their hearts to me. Friends tell me things I really wish I didn’t know. People moan about Resting Bitch Face but my affliction is much greater. Any other sufferers?

Yes I'm a sufferer. I think because I wear glasses complete strangers assume I'm clever and helpful . I'm neither.
I've witnessed people stand in the street while 10 people pass them by but as soon as they spot me they ask for directions . Even once when ds was younger and he was having a tantrum and wrestling to get out of his buggy in the middle of the road. I saw a man stealthily creep up and I just knew he was going to ask me a question I barked at him " does this look like a good time?!"

Oh god yes!
Strangers tell me their problems constantly! I was in the queue at the post office this morning and a man was pouring his heart out to me about his divorce and custody battle... I am stopped for directions all the time, asked to watch babies, told in-depth medical problems... !

A man in the queue in co op told me his son had a one night stand and got a woman pregnant
They moved to Australia and never spoke to him again .
I only popped in for milk

I have found my people.

Oh yes, at work I'm always the one people from other teams single out for help/ advice whatever. In the street it's the same.

I'm practicing my resting bitch face in the hope it becomes truely natural to me!

Hi everyone. Nice to meet my people.

I also am a glasses wearer, could this be a link?

I often get my left and right mixed up and rely heavily on google maps to get anywhere, yet I'm constantly asked where the church/tattoo shop/grannies house is. Stock answer 'sorry, I don't live around here.'

Scowl. Scowl for what your life is worth and wear earphones even if you’re not playing music. I have RBF so this sounds like an absolute nightmare to me

😂 this is me! I get this all the time even though I am naturally cantankerous and antisocial. Despite that, I am actually a genuinely helpful person and am often to be found directing people or listening to long tales on the bus.

I've always had a disproportionate number of people asking me for directions,where a certain shop is,what bus to get etc. My DD says it's because I look friendly and approachable. I suppose that explains why I get constantly pestered by chuggers. Think I need to practice a 'resting bitch face' when I spot a chugger.

I definitely have this. I also wear glasses and on a bad day have a doughy, raw scone dough type face so I suppose I look approachable and non threatening

It's always bus journeys with me, every time I plonk my arse on a bus seat I get someone's life story, health problems and family's relationship status relayed to me as if I know all these people!

Sometimes I think it's a bit sad, and maybe these people don't have someone else to just natter to.

Other days I get off the bus a stop early for a minutes peace

Maybe we could get those comedy glasses with the eyes while we are napping through their long life stories on public transport???

Happy to acknowledge this if we can also have some recognition for resting "I love it when drunk people talk to me on public transport" face as well

Yep, this is me. people approach me for directions, advice and help in shops all the time. 'Will I like this coffee/cereal?' in the supermarket, or 'where would the (whatever) be?' , I hear mums saying to their small kids 'Ask that nice lady' and as for bus stops - it's like I'm somehow in charge like I'm running a helpdesk/counselling service.

I feel like a walking customer service rep for everything sometimes but I don't mind. I must look very wise I think

Me too! I’m also pretty miserable, had a lady let several people go by her but stop me when I was out running the other day! Why would you do that?!

My father has this and my oldest son has it now! They both have a pleasant look to their faces when in repose. They are always getting approached for directions, rides, advice, etc.

Sorry to disappoint you all, but I have a resting bitch face par excellence, and I have been asked for directions within 5 minutes of stepping in to a completely new city. I think it's because I tend to look purposeful and people therefore assume I know where I'm going.

Yep - always been referred to as my resting nice face by colleagues - 3 of us used to sit in a little office together, all same department very similar roles. Without fail if someone walked into ask a question/help and it's me that is asked. I'm not even the closest for the door or in immediate line of sight for people so it's not like I'm just the 1st person they see so ask by default. Happens in public too all the time. Also a glasses wearer....how odd

I always get people asking me to take their photo with their camera/phone.
Was out on a walk once and got asked 3 times in about 20 minutes.

Hi. How can I help?
(Me too)

Sometimes its quite nice, we have a lot of refugees where I live and they like to practice their English. A surprising number of cultures like to give gifts of food

DH has this, he can’t seem to move for people needing help at train stations and airports. Never when I’m around as my RBF is so strong even chuggers don’t bother.

I have that face too (but no glasses, sorry to blow your theory).
I'm that person at a party, trapped on the sofa by a depressed, sobbing person I met that evening.
Or the person on public transport trying to extricate myself from a stranger's epic life story so I don't miss my stop.
I've tried straight talking, bordering on rudeness, but it seems to come across as endearing.
Help me, people!

My DP and DDs dread going on buses with me as I always get somebody talking to me about problems they have or needing directions.
Im shit at directions and the answer to all my own life problems is wine!! How am I supposed to help anybody else?

I did have one lady talk to me at a bus stop, she broke my heart, i actually stayed on the bus way after my stop to talk to her. She had found out earlier on that day that she had cancer. She needed somebody to talk to, she was scared to go home and tell her family! I haven't seen her since - it was my first time I had seen her I think. I do sometimes wonder about her. She was ever so lovely. I don't expect her to remember me but I do hope I helped her that day!

Yes! If you watch The Good Place, we've got permanent Janet face!

Yes! I wouldn't say my resting face was polite as such- but I'm clearly not very good at conveying my inner feeling of "Shut Up. I'm so bored of listening to you that I'm tempted to shit myself just for something to do."

Probably for the best really.