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AIBU?

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To think flatmate is unreasonable?

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EmiratesLadybird · 15/03/2018 09:21

I ordered some food late at night and arrived at 2am - I asked them to leave outside and not ring bell. They rang bell once and I quietly went downstairs to collect. Everyone else in my flat slept soundly apart from one, who has asked that I make sure it never happens again... I have obviously apologised but I can’t promise to not do it ever again! Who is being fair? It was a one-off and I will do best to make sure I don’t wake anyone but it seems extreme to demand that

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YellowFlower201 · 15/03/2018 11:28

I think you should have done more to stop them ringing the doorbell (e.g. note on the bell, waiting by the door etc). Your flatmate's response seems pretty measured. It's hard sharing, but i'm sure you can imagine being woken up at 2am isn't ideal

cucaracha · 15/03/2018 11:30

When you share a flat you need to be more considerate of other folk. Keep more reasonable hours in future.

public announcement to all shift workers, policemen, firemen, nurses, electricity technicians...
Do keep reasonable hours please, you must be considerate for the rest of the world

I guess that could work, if everybody could be considerate and avoid being sick or in danger or need out of a 9am to 5pm slot?

Mookatron · 15/03/2018 11:31

I don't think your flatmate was being unreasonable to ask it doesn't happen again. Do you really think she was?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 15/03/2018 11:36

Viviennemary. You do come out with some corkers, but this has to be one of your best...I think you were being unfair prowling round at 2 am looking for pizza deliveries. When you share a flat you need to be more considerate of other folk. Keep more reasonable hours in future

‘Prowling around looking for Pizza Deliveries’....err, she ordered a Pizza to be delivered, she wasn’t out on the streets looking to mug pizza delivery drivers 😂

‘Keep more reasonable hours in future’ 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😖. See cucaracha’s post if you need help working out the absurdity of that statement.

thecatsthecats · 15/03/2018 11:38

The flatmate who said 'make sure it doesn't happen again' said it when tired. To be honest, when I say things to my fiance when he's disturbed me in the night and I'm sleep-grouchy, it's MUCH harsher than that!

It could even have been intended to be said in a light hearted way, but came out grumpy due to reasonable exhaustion.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 15/03/2018 11:39

I don't think your flatmate was being unreasonable to ask it doesn't happen again. Do you really think she was?

She wouldn’t have been unreasonable to ask the OP if she could try not to let it happen again, she was totally unreasonable to talk to her as though she was her mother or her boss. ‘Make sure this never happens again’. WTAF?

thecatsthecats · 15/03/2018 11:40

FYI, Deliveroo drivers seem to be far more attentive to instructions like that, and you can track their progress on the app so know when they're getting nearer.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 15/03/2018 11:42

Anyone that is so ‘tired’ being woken ONCE in the night, ONE time, that they can’t function due to ‘exhaustion’ needs to see a doctor and not live in shared housing, or to sleep anywhere other than a heavily insulated sleep chamber.

cucaracha · 15/03/2018 11:45

AnnieAnoniMouse please stop talking nonsense, you are embarrassing yourself

TenancyTroublesAgain · 15/03/2018 11:45

The OP can order food whenever they want. Don't judge.

I'd also be annoyed at having been woken up. You did leave a note but next time wait at the door as (obviously now you know) they don't always read it.

OP doesn't sound entitled. They didn't exactly order it without any instruction to be quiet and then run downstairs screaming that their food has arrived.

Damnthatonestaken · 15/03/2018 11:47

If its a one off i couldnt get worked up over that! Not your fault

Mookatron · 15/03/2018 11:49

I think as someone without kids you have a reasonable expectation not to be woken up at 2am by someone you live with. And to express irritation if it happens. If that irritation comes as speaking to your flatmate as if you're their mother, well, suck it up, flatmate. It's not like she actually tried to ground the op or took away screen privileges or something.

Stompythedinosaur · 15/03/2018 12:08

I think many and your flatmate is entitled to ask you not to wake her at 2am!

Stompythedinosaur · 15/03/2018 12:09

Many = yabu

AnnieAnoniMouse · 15/03/2018 15:29

cucaracha AnnieAnoniMouse please stop talking nonsense, you are embarrassing yourself

I presume you were joking, but missed off the 🤣

Otherwise I’ve no idea what the hell you’re on about 🤔

ButchyRestingFace · 15/03/2018 15:39

I asked them to leave outside and not ring bell.

But how would you have known the delivery was out there getting cold unless the courier rang the bell?

sidewayswithatescotrolley · 15/03/2018 15:50

Is somebody actually comparing night working nurses and police with someone deciding they need a fucking pizza at 2am?

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