MIL taking over

[Freya85]

I give my 1 year old small pieces of fruit, cheese ect to eat off her plate. Other things I would spoon feed her but generally I let her pick away. Mil doesn't like this and thinks she's going to choke. Now I get that if mil is minding her on her own the odd day she might feel more comfortable mashing and spoon feeding dd but what I don't get is when I was giving dd her dinner which was cut up tiny mil took it off her and went and mashed it then proceeded to spoon feed her. I was sitting beside DD at the table. DD wasn't struggling with the food at all and was happily eating it whilst we ate our dinner. My husband thinks it's just her way but I think it was plain rude. AIBU

So outrageously rude. Tell your DH to get a fucking grip on his mother - if she can’t bear to watch your child eat she should come round at mealtimes. Those are her options.

If it was a girlfriend that had mashed the food up, she would have laughed it off.

I would hope that none of my friends would ever have thought of taking over the feeding of my child while I was actually there and supervising said feeding.

They wouldn't be friends for long if that happened. Mum was there. Mum was overseeing the child's eating. MIL was out of line and simply demonstrating that she did mistrusted OP's parenting skills.