For DH to react like this ?

[Tiredpom]

DH is away with work, he is notoriously hard to get hold off when he is away. Goes off radar, which he knows upsets me. No reason for it, no remote location anything like that. Last night he was out with a mutual friend. We had be texting a bit through the day in a light hearted manner, oh will I get to speak to you tonight etc. As I hadn't heard from him. Got to midnight, still nothing - so asked was he still out. Got a curt yip response back. I replied, 'oh lol ! That's late for a school night ?!?!' He then flew off the handle, 'jeez .... I'll remember that when you are out with work next time' and sent me a picture of the hotel room. So I called him, to ask why he was being a dick ! And he was just ranting and raving. Accusing me of just calling to have a go, that it's ok for me to go out with work with a bunch of Coke heads etc. (once was at work function where there was Coke flying about, this was last year - I told him because I thought it was amusing) Bringing up a time I had too much to drink at a party last year ...... He was just ranting and being aggressive, denying he was pissed and generally not wanting to tell me where he'd been. So I said right I've had enough, I'll look forward to an apology in the morning and hung up. Woken up this morning, radio silence. Even tho. His working day has started. I'm upset, so I sent him a text ...... 'hey, not sure what last night was all about. But I'm upset - can you call?' Again nothing ..... tempted to text my friend and ask what time her other half rolled in (who he was out with) as something's not adding up. Is he being a dick or AIBU for wanting to know my husband got home safe ?

**apologised

How do you feel about the apology? Sincere or empty words?

He knows you are on to him, he knows you are upset with him and he is trying to keep you sweet but the mask is already slipping after what, 2/3 weeks? Sorry but he just doesn't care.

Did you text your friend?

I don't remember reading your other thread.

Basically you don't trust him at all and sounds like there are reasons. If there was no backstory I would say you were clingy, I would find it irritating to be messaged so much when working.

My DH works away loads and there is sometimes contact but not much
sometimes he really is not contactable. Thing is if it's at the stage you feel he needs a leash to behave, what kind of miserable exsistence is that for you.

My Mother is an extremely difficult human and very imperfect but she did say to me when very young. If a man is going to be unfaithful he will be and there is no point fretting about it because there lies madness.

Just sounds like it's over quite frankly, he has had bad behaviour, it's made you understandably unhappy and insecure. It's no way to live.

I'm still trying to understand him saying he was still out and then sending a picture of the hotel room.

Is this the same DH who:
was away frequently and wouldn't say where
took off & hid his wedding ring
had a phone in the lining of his bag
dropped a condom wrapper on the floor & denied all knowledge

If so then the ranting just adds to the list of red flags. Ranting at you seems disproportionate to the question/request regarding contacting you.

Marklah that is him.

They’re usually sorry when it’s ending, even if they too want out.
If he’s actually calling himself a knob OP honestly, I’d be astounded if he didn’t have something to hide.

As someone’s just said you can’t stop him if he wants to be unfaithful; you will drive yourself mad trying to police his movements.

He knows what he’s doing. You know somewhere at the back of your mind he’s being unfaithful (condom wrapper he’s not even taking care not to let you know).
You have decide whether you mind or not. There are some people in the world who seem to be genuinely ok with an open relationship. But you don’t sound like one of them.

Maybe you don’t feel up to splitting at the moment but if this continues (and why wouldn’t it?) it will erode your self esteem.
You will feel far better about yourself if and when you bite the bullet and get rid.

He sounds like a headfuck. Is this how you see your future

Ah yes, I recall the other threads.

But if I was the DH in the scenario, I also would have snapped at the nagging

Tired did you speak to your friend in the end?

Frankly, your relationship sounds awful. Get rid. Spend some time being your own person.