Unfair school run?

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Up untill last year my DH was sharing the school run to the junior school with our NDNs, so he would drive their two one day and they would drive ours the next. last september another neighbours twins started at the school and as he is the only one with a 7 steater he's the only one who can take all 6 children at once so has slowly ended up doing all drop offs and pick ups.

To take the other twins aswell he has to use our bigger car which costs a lot more in petrol, they never say thankyou, often cause arguements about where they are sitting, needing to swap seats and nedding DH to pull over so they can g to the toilet every journey, they also make so much mess of the car spilling food and leaving rubbish on the floor.

AIBU to think this is incredibly unfair? Can we just stop offering the lift to the twins unless the favour is returned in someway? What can we suggest?

Agree you should just say it doesn't work for you and set a cut off point. Brace yourself for a guilt trip though. If this becomes uncomfortable and you feel you need to explain, say the children require too much supervision for your DH while driving and he doesn't need the stress. That's it.

Just say it's stopped being a car share, so as it's not working as envisaged you're having to pull out unless the others accept that you'll be doing one in three.

CFers

YADNBU.

I agree, no explanation necessary, a simple "this no longer works for us, you will need to make other arrangements for school pick ups & drop offs from now on"

I can't believe you've been doing this for free for all of them. If you don't have enough backbone to stop it altogether, the least you can do is tell both sets it's costing you too much and you need X amount of money for petrol/week on Friday for the following week and if they don't pay it, you can't take them. If they chime up with 'You were going anyway!' You say, 'No, we were swapping out. Now we're doing every day. So pay up or no more.' And mean it. NO excuses or 'sorry' or any of that shit, both sets of parents are mugging you off.

DH is being a door mat.
But YABU not to give your DC a proper breakfast before school. There is NO need to be eating in the car en route.

You can set up a 3-way school run car share - it’s just a bit more of a logistical hassle.

I don’t really understand why you started taking the twins? You’re not responsible for taking along everyone who lives nearby, are you? Did they ask you to take them-if so, what did they offer in return?

Please Op put a stop to this now...i hate to see people getting away with bare faced cheeky fuckery !!!

You don't need to lie or make excuses. Just say 'no this isn't working, we won't be doing lifts anymore'
They aren't stupid, they know they've been taking the piss and will be expecting it the end at some point.

Did you speak to them yet OP? I am interested in their reaction.

So am I!
Sod this for a laugh, my own kids are enough. I occasionally help out friends when an emergency crops up, but I’d neither ask nor accept someone regularly putting themselves out for me without paying them at the very least fuel money. Absolutely outrageous

Have you sorted this yet OP? Can your kids not have breakfast at home? Then you could just say no eating in the car.