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To think this is no way to punish a child!

212 replies

Justalittlelemondrizzle · 12/03/2018 16:18

Neighbours arrived home. Dad shouting and swearing at 7yo lad. Don't know what he's done obvs. They went in house where their neighbour heard banging before the crying 7 yo is thrown out of the house and the door is locked. He's knocked on the door about 10 times. It's raining so he keeps going under a shelter in the garden as he doesn't even have a coat on.
Dads just come out to take football off him before going back in the house and locking the door so the kid is now playing with rocks. He's been out there 40 minutes now 😒 surely this isn't normal behaviour?

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Justalittlelemondrizzle · 12/03/2018 16:35

Would it be better to maybe phone his school? Maybe they could check things out tomorrow/bring Dad in, without involving ss?

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Uniglo18 · 12/03/2018 16:35

Call 101 & log it with the the police. There could be other complaints about this family and the police need more evidence in which to proceed. This could be the evidence that you need, you can report them anonymously.

The family need a shock and a visit from the police will do that hopefully.

teaiseverything · 12/03/2018 16:36

Please phone 111 and report because nobody else can do it for this little boy and imagine what goes on behind closed doors.

Snowmagedon · 12/03/2018 16:36

joskar are you for real! A four year old Angry what would be the abuse in your eyes! That is utterly abusive and disgraceful.

ColourfulOrangex · 12/03/2018 16:36

If they have nothing to hide then SS involvement won't be an issue, the only concern should be for that 7 year old

Uniglo18 · 12/03/2018 16:38

Don't wait until tomorrow, they could be battering him as you're typing on your computer. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors, the punishment could very well be continuing. I'd report them in a heartbeat, no hesitation whatsoever.

OneMoreToFind · 12/03/2018 16:38

I never ever get involved in things that are no concern of mine, but in this case I would call social services!!

Snowmagedon · 12/03/2018 16:39

It is abusive what's wrong with people.

Op how do you know ss will get involved? It's not for you or joskar to judge frankly... I'm appalled by joskar post.

Call the non emergency no and report it they will triage this.. They will decide what to do... Not you, its not your role to call it in.

titchy · 12/03/2018 16:39

but you can't get involved unless a child is actually being abused.

What the fuck?!!!! You need to be phoning SS - what sort of person ignores that in a so called friends.

DerelictWreck · 12/03/2018 16:39

No obvious signs of abuse

I think this IS an obvious sign of abuse!

Uniglo18 · 12/03/2018 16:40

It's 101 not 111, that's NHS direct or whatever they call themselves nowadays.

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 12/03/2018 16:40

I cannot believe you would sit and watch a small child sit out in the rain for 40 mins with no coat in the rain. Shame on you OP for not doing something.

ConstantReminder · 12/03/2018 16:41

have cops responded?

ILoveAntButHateDec · 12/03/2018 16:41

No! There’s no point calling school. This poor child needs intervention NOW!

KochabRising · 12/03/2018 16:41

Call 111 and report.
Let the school know

And the person with the friends who lock their four year old out - that is APPALLING and needs to be reported too. That’s abuse and endangerment

OneMoreToFind · 12/03/2018 16:42

This thread has really upset me “no obvious signs of abuse” locking a child outside is abuse!!

OP please do the right thing and call social services!

BensonJutton · 12/03/2018 16:42

joskar a 4 year old? How can anyone do that to a 4 year old? Sad

KochabRising · 12/03/2018 16:42

Sorry 101.

Frankly I’d have taken a pic and then called the police immediately- this is terrible. Some people shouldn’t have kids 🤬

ChelleDawg2020 · 12/03/2018 16:43

Before you get the authorities involved, you should go round to them and explain your concerns. They may have legitimate reasons for doing what they did (although I can't imagine what they might be!) but it is better to discuss it politely like grown ups than immediately get the police involved.

If you really thought it was a matter for the authorities, you should have contacted them immediately rather than posting about it on here. The fact you didn't suggests you have doubts, so a quiet word with the parents would probably be for the best.

Uniglo18 · 12/03/2018 16:43

www.police.uk/contact/101/

FissionChips · 12/03/2018 16:43

You could have filmed it as proof and phoned the police. How could you bear to watch a child outside in this weather like that?

FranticallyPeaceful · 12/03/2018 16:44

Call 101 immediately, don’t get in contact with the school because it’s just a long winded way of doing the same thing. I find it weird you’re trying to get out of phoning them. 7 year old was left out in the rain and ignored ffs.
They may not do anything but if there are other complaints about them then they will do something

whampiece · 12/03/2018 16:44

No obvious signs of abuse

I don't understand this? What just happened WAS abuse.

Anatidae · 12/03/2018 16:44

Do not go round and talk to the parents. Best case you’ll get a gobful of abuse and the kid will get a belting in retaliation.

And locking a four year old out is abuse. Please report it!

Coconuthusk · 12/03/2018 16:45

Please tell the police. :(

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