To have shivers after this info about my house

[ToJustWantToGetOnThePlane]

I live in a rented house. I’ve been here for almost a year.

I invited my neighbor around for drinks tonight- the first meeting since I’ve been here.

She mentioned that the LL wife had committed suicide in our bedroom.

I was a little 🤢

I wouldn't have a problem living in a house where people happened to die (as everyone said, most houses), but I think there's something a bit different about a very sad death (ie suicide) or a violent death. Like, I wouldn't want to live in the house where the Victorian baby farmer did her bad deeds, or where anyone committed brutal murders.

I think I'd rather know, though, if that makes sense? So I could make my own decision about how much a particular incident upset me. But I'd ask about the history myself, there's no need for people to just randomly say it!

Why is a sad death the only thing that matters? We have no idea what went on in a house or on a piece of land. I live in a house built in 1911. Dh grew up in a house built in 1820. As far as we know no one was murdered or committed suicide in those houses. But surely there was some awful misery over the years - miscarriages, violence, unhappy marriages, divorces, rape, assault, all the usual things humans do to each other. As well as moments of intense happiness and joy.

Totally understandable to have sad thoughts upon hearing of this. I, myself would spend a few minutes thinking about the life lost, put flowers in a vase, light a candle, then say goodbye and keep living. Perhaps you too, need to do something, to create closure for you.

And have a party. A loud awesome happy party. Move out and on those feelings you are experiencing.

I've twice had "friendly and helpful" elderly neighbors inform me of deaths that occurred in the place I've just moved into- one a suicide, one a person who died of natural causes but wasn't discovered for a awhile. Not exactly welcome information, but honestly short of fresh bloodstains from a recent murder I wouldn't let it bother me. Most older houses have tales of death and grief!