To have shivers after this info about my house

[ToJustWantToGetOnThePlane]

I live in a rented house. I’ve been here for almost a year.

I invited my neighbor around for drinks tonight- the first meeting since I’ve been here.

She mentioned that the LL wife had committed suicide in our bedroom.

I was a little 🤢

I don't get it?
Why is everyone slating the neighbour? She clearly thought you knew and put her foot in it. But why does it matter anyways? What difference does it make to you? It's sad for the LL and I feel bad that someone felt the need to do that but other than that I don't see a problem

What's the issue? People die in houses all the time.

What do you think is going to happen?

Most houses have had death or suffering take place in them (unless you move into a new build I suppose.) But most houses and flats have also had lots of moments of great joy and everyday contentment in them, as well. Probably rather more nice things than nasty things happen in any home.

Well, it's horrid, and sad. But why does it worry you?

If she hadn't said anything, somebody else would have told you. It isn't ghoulish just a fact about the house. I wouldn't worry about it and would stay friends with your neighbours.

Seriously, it's going to have no impact on you whatsoever. Promise.

"oh, I think the Boston Strangler killed one of his victims in this apartment block" And left me to go in alone
Sorry pallisers, that made me laugh.

It's very sad OP, but others are right. Most houses will have had people die in them. I like ReanimatedSGB's post about the happy times too.

I find it odd in general to think about my home existing before my family lived in it - and continuing into the future after we leave. Sort of an existential discomfort, like the awareness of the tiny blip i make in the history of the existence world, yet it only exists while I experience it.

I looked at the house I lived in as a young child - not good memories - on googlemaps street view recently. It was very weird to see it so many years later. I had a vague sense of the young me and my siblings still lingering in that house in some way.

There you go, probably the oddest pointlessly wordy reply!

You've been there almost a year. You were comfortable. You had no worries. It was home.

Nothing has changed. All the time you were living there, the same background was true, you just didn't know. It is no more likely to be haunted today than yesterday. There have been no more deaths in the house than there had been yesterday. All that has changed is what you know.

Do you think the woman is haunting your bedroom?

Do you think the walls have absorbed negative vibes?

It's very sad, but agree with PP who said people die in houses all the time. I don't get the big deal. It's not like they're still there under the patio or something is it?

People die. Shocker.

I can understand why you felt unnerved as it was a piece of sad information that you weren't expecting to hear, about your home that you want to feel relaxed and comfortable in.

But as PPs have said most houses have had and an good times. To think of the opposite would it bother you to think about someone being conceived in your bedroom? Just another slant on it.

I would think about the poor woman and the circumstances, let yourself feel however you do about it and then let it go and go back to feeling it as YOUR home and nothing to do with this.

Don’t think I’d tell anyone.

I think the neighbour 2 doors down told the buyers of the house next to him when they turned up the other day to find the house totally wrecked inside due to burst pipes. Even the pebbledash is soaked. I think they were told the house is cursed: guy is his 60s dropped dead of a heart attack-not a huge surprise, he was very unfit, but no previous problems. The next owners, the wife died in childbirth, just couldn’t be revived when her heart stopped, bloody awful.

Most houses over 50 years old must have witnessed deaths, be they natural or otherwise.

We were talking about something like this earlier..house near us a violent rape and murder took place a few months ago there, someone else has just moved in, it's a housing association property I'm not sure if the info would have had to have been disclosed.

Anyway I would think there would be slot of bad vibes in a house where something awful happened. But then if you didn't know maybe you would have been ok, I wouldn't personally want to live there though.

Nasty bitch. What was she hoping to achieve?

back at ya

Why does it matter?

Like others said, most houses have probably had someone die in them at some point. My house is 500 years old. Countless people have probably died some pretty nasty deaths in it. I really don't care - they're not here now.

bad vibes

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I can see why you're unnerved. She was a cow to tell you. We live in a flat where a tenant hanged himself in our stairwell from the long light fixture in 1996. It's just a place. Even new builds can have been the site of all kinds of things, someone I know lives in flats where hundreds of people were killed in WWII bombings. I've been in plenty of relatively new council homes that have been the seen of suicides, murders, deaths. Still many more places are built over plague pits and other burial grounds - loads of flats in Edinburgh are.

Previous tenent committed suicide in the room I sleep in. Doesn't bother me.

It might sound overly woo but I've lived in a flat where someone committed suicide and it was a totally lovely peaceful place, I've also lived in a house where an awful crime was committed and I swear it had a totally different vibe.

Carry on enjoying your lovely home. As PPs have said, it would be weirder to find a house without the whole range of human activity, including death, in it.

I've looked at several properties recently and two were for sale due to a death in the property - in both cases I was told upfront by the agent (it didn't bother me, but I can see it's better to have people know than 'find out' Futher down the line and cause issues).

So I don't think the neighbor was unreasonable to assume you knew.

Its sad for the LL wife and the LL , but is shouldn't make any difference to you. Things happen in houses, good and bad, plus also mundane day to day activities of lives puddling along.
Julie Myerson wrote a fabulous non fiction book called Home about everyone that had lived in her Victorian house. Its gorgeous, thoroughly recommend it.

Well it’s sad for the family of the woman who died , it’s not about your neighbour or you at all really.

I don't see the issue? Unless you live in a new build as the first owners then at some point in history someone will probably have died in your house and it changes nothing about the house you live in today.

I live in a victorian terrace and I know that people have been born and died here but as long as none of it has happened in the last 3 years since I moved in it has no bearing on my life.

You could turn your feelings around and be glad for them as their suffering ended. You have nothing to be frightened of. Enjoy your home.

Please can we have a trigger warning put on the thread? I clicked as thought it was about some sort of woo thread. Didn't realise the topic x as you were ...