AIBU to hate my new house?

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It's taken months to get into my new house and I'm two days in and having serious wobbles. I knew it needed a lot of work but I'm finding that the layout isn't even right. I've got this nice garden but the only rooms overlooking them are a back bedroom, the bathroom, the kitchen which is too small for a table and a huge but very cold conservatory. The sellers misled me on the conservatory as they said they used it all year round but I can't see how they did based on how cold it is.

I know it's really early days but I'm really worried that I'm going to basically be stuck in a front living room never really seeing the garden (my last house had the living room at the back). I'm really missing my old house.

Everyone else thinks this house is amazing bit I'm really worried I've bought a dud. Please reassure me that it all gets better!

Put a wood burner in the conservatory! Super warm and very cosy!

We need a floor plan so we can see the issues.

Vendors are always lying so and so’s 🙄

The old owners may well be tough types who DID use the conservatory come rain or shine so don't feel misled.
Going from the hustle and bustle and hum of noise of a terrace to a detached is going to be a shock to the system but think of the peace and quiet especially if scummers moved in next door at your old house? Your own drive! A downstairs loo! (ok it's a bungalow so obviouslt the loo is downstairs but stil how handy! Think of all the lovely plants you can keep in the conservatory! Even if you can't afford to sort heating right now it'll wait. A secure future. If your health declines you are sorted already with suitable housing. Would going to introduce yourself to the neighbours make any difference to how you feel?

We have a pretty big conservatory. We never use it in winter as too cold so we light a fire in our living room and cosy in. But come April first until October ee live iin there. Sun shining in heats it up and its fabulous. The best part of our house. Put your table in there and lots of easy chairs and some little side tables for your cofee and books and you will be happy out. Nice lamps for the evening. Don't panic.
Then plan to have a woodburning stove if you want one for next winter. This house will be ok.
Moving house a lot l found it helped to put somethings in exactly the same place immediately. So photos out on sideboard. Same on mantlepiece. Burn the same candles so smmell feels familiar. Same quilt on bed Even if l change things later it helps me feel at home.

I second the suggestion of an oil radiator thing for the conservatory. I have one too - funnily enough, same as you op, big garden and nothing overlooking it except the conservatory, and it's freezing in there for at least half the year. I have the rad and blankets, it's just starting to be a comfy place again now spring is approaching. Keep focusing on the positives of the place, like these fact that it's detached. Everything will seem better when the weather is warmer and you've put your stamp on the place.

Can you move rooms around? Try and look at it as a long term project? My parents are looking to move at the moment and my mum has written a lot of places of due to the layout. My aunt recently pointed out when they first bought their property 40 years ago the lay out was different, they have moved the living room to the back to look over the garden etc.

Thanks everyone for all your amazing suggestions and own experiences, I will certainly bookmark this post to read over and over when I'm feeling a bit down about this place.

It is a total change in lifestyle and I'm certainly aiming it make it less 'old people's home' and more 'luxury one-storey house' . Today I'm planning to get some pictures up on the walls and get more boxes unpacked, but I suspect a trip to IKEA is on the cards to get some rugs and throws for the conservatory. I am also going to invest in some heavy duty slippers until I get the central heating replaced. At that point an industrial sized radiator can be put in there.

Being detached, having parking and no stairs are 3 very big positives.
But because they are "absence of problems" you don't get reminded of them every day.
But you do see the negatives.

Most people feel a House is wrong at first.
Use this time to plan your improvements.

As suggested above, could you use the space in conservatory to create a utility cupboard?
Somehere to hide washer dryer?

I like the wood burner idea too.

I don’t think you were misled. Some people would use a freezing cold room all year round. We have one attached to our living room, so both rooms get very cold in winter. We just deal with it, as no other option. When the sun is out, even in winter, it gets really warm. Definitely useable, at least on sunny days, in winter.

I'm just worried that I have this amazing garden that I'll never see because I don't want to sit in the aircraft hanger of a conservatory. Even if you have filled a garden with with flowering cherries and trees with coloured bark, there's a limit to how long you want to look at it. On the other hand even an unheated conservatory can be filled with pelargoniums that will continue flowering all winter, and bulbs such as daffodil and crocuses will open earlier and fill the conservatory with scent.

Glad I'm not the only one to have felt like this. We're on third house and have struggled badly with the second two.
Wish I'd had Mumsnet back then. So keep focusing on the positive and making your plans.
Change what you can while saving up for the bigger things.
It takes time but one day you'll realise that you're falling in love with your home.

I have this when moving but still love the thought of planning new things when we move

Could you write a list of the reasons you moved to this house and the faults with your old one - you can read it over when you are having a bad day.

Also set up a Pinterest board for ideas on what to do with your new house

We changed our conservatory room to blue glass and then took a risk in opening it up into our kitchen (with the option to put folding doors back in place). It’s become much warmer in winter and also keeps the kitchen cooler in summer. I love the big space it’s created.

I had same problem so I had mine insulated and can now use in the winter and not too hot in summer.

Moving the kitchen cupboards down a foot should be a relatively easy task and totally worth it (if you're not going to gut and replace it!)

Has anyone had their conservatory roof replaced successfully, mine is boiling in summer, freezing in winter, it's a polycarbonate flat roof.

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Our conservatory is 5 metres by 2.5 . We have blue glass roof & eco heaters , usable all year !

What is blue glass in this context?

We have underfloor heating in our conservatory, run from our central heating boiler. It's water in tubing and is fitted under the tiles [with insulation and stuff too.] It's very effective. The ceramic tiles are toasty when the system is on - not in the summer, obviously. You would need to replace your tiles though...

I think the electric pads, that are easier to fit, may be expensive to run? Maybe someone else could give you an idea for a conservatory your size?

Didn't you say a family member was a plumber? Ask them?

Good luck with it all.

This thread is from March 18. Hopefully the op likes it now!
Annee1959 We have replaced our conservatory roof with a Guardian roof system. Took a couple of days to fit and is absolutley brilliant.

There was an episode or 2 on 'Your Home Made Perfect' were the designer were working on conservatories might be worth watching for future inspiration. One design reused the window parts but installed tilted like in a bridge of a ship so don't get the reflections on the glass & can see garden more clearly. Should be on iPlayer

Can I ask who did the insulation