To have cancelled tomorrow mornings driving lesson?

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The instructor is not happy with me, in fact he's really quite cross, so I wanted to check on here if AIBU, and if so, what do I do?

I had a lesson yesterday, a 6 hour one (intense). I also had one for the same length of time tomorrow, starting at 11.30am.
When I finished yesterdays lesson, the instructor (instructor 1) and I discussed briefly the lesson we'd just done, and what we'll be doing on Sunday's lesson.

Around 2pm today, I logged onto FB, to find a message from instructor 1 saying that he'd had to go and visit family (reason is new niece/ nephew)
He told me that he'd been in touch with a fellow instructor (instructor 2) that was a friend of his, and that instructor 2 will be doing my lesson tomorrow. He gave me contact details for instructor 2, and told me to get in touch with him. He then told me to let him (instructor 1) know when I've paid the lesson from yesterday into his bank.

I was slightly put out, however I messaged instructor 2. He said he'll do the lesson tomorrow, however it'll be 3 hours earlier (8.30am) and for 3 hours less than planned. He told me his fee, which is more expensive per hour than instructor 1, although obviously cheaper overall as it's a shorter lesson.

I thought about it for a while, and I really wasn't happy with any of it. I contacted instructor 2 again, and cancelled the lesson for tomorrow. I apologised, explained that it was all a bit up in the air for me, thanked him for offering his time, and was generally polite and apologetic.

He was not happy at all. He said that he'll be telling instructor 1, and that he had moved his whole morning to accommodate me. I apologised again, thanked him again, and then again apologised for any inconvenience this had caused him.
He then replied asking me if the reason I was really cancelling was because I'd have to be up early in the morning.
I told him that I have multiple children, and was always up hours before 8.30am, and it wasn't anything to do with the time.
He then message me 'OK, good luck with your driving in the future...'

If you've sat through all the 'I said, he said' thank you. My question is WIBU to have cancelled my lesson for tomorrow? I felt like I was OK to, however I do feel bad that instructor 2 feels unhappy about it. I'm not pleased with his rudeness, though is he justified?
Also, Im not at all happy with instructor 1, obviously.

How did you get on Martagon? Did you reply to instructor 1? Are you still going for your test? Steam would have been coming out of my ears at that last message from him. How bloody dare he? - and to call you 'totally out of order'!

Ah, sorry I took so long to reply. We ended up going out to the coast for a few hours yesterday, and today I've been rather unwell.

The replies have all been a great help. I sent both the instructors a reply, in the same group message, as I1 stance on the situation seemed rather different from I2. My phone is on charge at the minute (on laptop) and my memory is pretty crap when I get run down like today.
I'll post again later once I have read messages again.
The basics of it is that I2 was rather embarrassed and seemed perhaps I1 had told him something rather different to what the situation was. I think I2 thought it was something I'd arranged with I1 before hand.
I don't know, they were both rude really though.

I1 in particular was totally unprofessional about it. It may well be that I2 will be more reluctant to help him out in the future, but that's entirely his problem, and he needs to get his act together. I would actually complain to the body he's a member of, if appropriate. Even if you'd been OK about it, every instructor has their own style, and to suddenly get used to a new instructor so near your test wouldn't have been helpful to you, I would imagine. It is all for his convenience, he's not thinking of you at all.

Hope you're feeling better tomorrow.

Speaking as someone who is currently taking driving lessons and finds the whole thing fairly stressful (but necessary!) I think you are definitely NBU. You are paying good money for their time, patience and to make you feel confident about driving. Them dicking you about in this manner will do anything but. Don't apologise again and don't pay either any more more money. Find an instructor will dedicate themselves to making the lessons as stress free as possible.

Good luck with your driving

Speaking as someone who is currently taking driving lessons and finds the whole thing fairly stressful (but necessary!) I think you are definitely NBU. You are paying good money for their time, patience and to make you feel confident about driving. Them dicking you about in this manner will do anything but. Don't apologise again and don't pay either any more more money. Find an instructor will dedicate themselves to making the lessons as stress free as possible.

Good luck with your driving

Wow, both instructors sound awful.

I'm sorry it's taken me a while to get back on here properly although I'm sure no one was on tenterhooks
Basically, they were both pretty much not bothered, I1 didn't really care, past his outrage at my apparent mistreatment of I2. I paid the money for Friday's lesson into his account (was meant to pay all on Sunday's lesson) and haven't heard back from him.

I'm going to cancel my test as I'm just unsure. We were due a mock test, just before the official one, so that'll be cancelled too now.

Probably a wise move. You're at your best when you are confident with the whole package - yourself, your instructor, and what's going on in your life. I1 has taken that away from you. Shame on him.

You will get there in the near future. And try to look on the positive side that maybe this has happened for a reason.

Thanks MrsCrabbyTree I agree that now is not a good time.
I'll start afresh with a new instructor, and hopefully all will be well.

What a shame OP, but I agree it might be better to start afresh. You need to feel comfortable and relaxed with this, and they both sound terribly unprofessional!
Have to say I am a little shocked at the 6 hour lessons?! Had you booked an intensive course? Just seems an awful long time to be driving, I really struggled with just the one!

The whole thing sucks OP, I'm sorry.

Best thing to do is start over with a decent instructor that you're comfortable with and re-book your test. It took me three instructors to find one I liked and who had a teaching style that suited my way of learning.

I ended up passing first time with only four minors so it was worth shopping around!