Am I being selfish?

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DH hasn't got me anything for Mother's Day, I said to him earlier "I'm going upstairs to wrap your mothers present for tomorrow" and he said "I hope you know I haven't got you anything" I thought he was bluffing at first but I can tell he's serious.

Firstly, I'm not the type of person who ever expects anything for occasions usually, we're pretty skint so every birthday/Christmas/valentines etc I always tell him not to get me anything cos we can't afford it

What a w**r! I would kick if massively, OP. Shame him to the hilt and tell his mother. He is selfish to the core. Do not stand for it. Kick him off the sofa and tell him this is the day things change.

Presumably the older ones will have made something at school.

If you need a set day to be appreciated then it's just a symptom of other problems.

If having issues over money, then you need to work together on that to resolve. Does it all fall to him or is it a joint effort and he's not pulling his weight hours wise.

Its always an afterthought. I love my husband and hes a good man in general but he would never think of things like this if i didnt remind him and make it clear about what i expected several days before.
Ive never been let down now because he knows exactly what i expect.
Itd be nice if men just thought of these things themselves but most of them have been brought up not giving a shit about these things and having their mums just sort it all out.
Hopefully things are changing and ill be bringing my son up to remember peoples birthdays and put effort into celebrations.... but in the meantime with the men already here... i think its always worth expressing very clearly exactly what you want them to do because if you dont its very likely you will be dissapointed.

I feel a bit calmer now.
I've just come on my period so maybe it was my hormones 😂😂 I'm always emotional and irrational in the few hours before, I still think he could have put some thought in though but I don't want to gouge his eyes out anymore

Very confused ~ why would a husband by a Mother’s Day gift for you? You are not his mother.

Dornthe children to give to me, obviously, just the same as I do for him on Father's Day

For the

I am the mother of his children who are too young to go out and get something themselves.

Seriously, you weren't being irrational.

Thank you

And homemade card, biscuits, and cheap box of Chicago. They require just a little thought and effort. You are worth that!

Why don't you salvage the situation by apologising for irrational period related hormonal behaviour, and say actually he is right you DO always say not to buy you anything, but now you've had time to reflect what you'd REALLY like is to have a lie-in, breakfast (or at least a cup of tea) in bed, and could he sort the kids to take them out for a walk or something, so you can get an extra hour in bed as you're tired (you can lay on the hormonal-ness here), and then (& perhaps get the oldest to help) him prepare lunch / dinner so you don't have to?
& say that would be a real treat as it's something you never do - and far preferable to a box of chocolates.

You are not irrational. He needs to start being more considerate and show his appreciation.
My mother's Day present hasn't arrived in time and my DH is so devastated that he went out to get me a a cheap token present as he didn't feel it was right for me to have nothing. He is teaching our son to appreciate me. I do the same on father's Day.