Am I being selfish?

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DH hasn't got me anything for Mother's Day, I said to him earlier "I'm going upstairs to wrap your mothers present for tomorrow" and he said "I hope you know I haven't got you anything" I thought he was bluffing at first but I can tell he's serious.

Firstly, I'm not the type of person who ever expects anything for occasions usually, we're pretty skint so every birthday/Christmas/valentines etc I always tell him not to get me anything cos we can't afford it

Stop treating him like an overgrown man child and buying/wrapping his presents for him.

No Jedi mind reading required. Op hints make it pretty clear that Mother's Day is important. He should not need a hint ffs.

Op do nothing for Father's Day. I wouldn't buy your MIL anything from him. I might get something from the kiddos. What a twat.

He sounds like a complete waste of space.

Quite why you'd expect a box of chocolates and a card from someone who's too lazy to do his share of day to day parenting/household chores, is beyond me.

You need to change some things in your relationship ASAP and none of them have anything to do with chocolates or Mother's Day.

Biscay it's not about him, his mother is like a mother to me too and he might not care wether he gets her anything but I care, I wouldn't do it for just anyone from him

You have bigger problems than him not bothering with Mothers' Day.

If he's not working as much as he should to support his family I would think that needs addressing more.

If you've got something for his Mother make sure you sign it from just you and the kids. Don't include him on the card.

I'd say it to him? I'd say do you not think for once a year,I should be made feel special,tomorrow you look after the kids,you make dinner,buy me a cheap bottle of wine(£4),maximum spend £4.....also to show the kids the importance of showing you deserve to be treated on this day

Then why are you with him? He doesn't appreciate you, and you clearly (and rightly) think he's being a lazy arse.

It's Mother's Day not Partner's Day. Why would a grown man buy a card/gift for his wife/partner on Mother's Day. Surely it should be kids who do that. Anyway, the whole thing is a commercial confection. Waste of money and guilt-inducing construct.

He should have taken the kids out to choose something for you or at least sat down with them and a pot of paint and let them make you a card. He is an arse.

@dogsdinnerlady guessing your not the very giving type then :/

You're short of money and he CBA to go to work??? He's one selfish fucker isn't he?! As someone has already said, you have bigger problems than not receiving a Mothers' Day present. I could say what I would do, but really you need to decide how you handle this relationship. I hope his mother gives him what for as well. If he was my son I'd be ashamed. I hope you have a lovely day tomorrow. Here's some from me x

Dogsdinnerlady the kids are 2, 3, 7 and 9. Too young to go out and buy something, they don't even get pocket money yet.
He could've made something with them if he didn't want to spend a few quid on me

Thank you chatty

Mothers day is the least of your problems. Maybe if he didn't lounge around while you do everything you wouldn't feel so unappreciated.
Personally if I was you I would be telling him to pull his weight or fuck off

To add YADNBU

his mother is like a mother to me too

Why not get her something for Mother's Day from yourself then? Why say it's from him if he can't be bothered?

He sounds like a waste of space.

I suppose biscay, I've written it from all of us, or should I say he has, I buy and wrap and he writes on the card

Why are you allowing him to treat you this way? I don't mean about Mothers day but everyday!

You are not a single parent yet you do everything single handed. Why? What does he contribute other than an extra 3 mouths to feed, wash for, care for and clean after.

Just a thought, could he be winding you up? I know most schools get the kids to make something/card for their mums so perhaps there's a surprise waiting for you? So hope so x

Keep his present or take it back and buy yourself a box of chocolates, sit there and eat them in front of him DO NOT SHARE !

his mother is like a mother to me

That's lovely.

What does she say when she see's her son not helping with any of the four children he created?

Oh OP.
It's not about Mothers day, it's about him being a useless selfish git every single day isn't it?
You are worth so much more than this.
Have you tried talking to him and explaining that you are being taken for granted and wont put up with it anymore?
If you split up you would be a single parent but only to the kids at least you wouldn't be carrying him as well.

You went to wrap his mother’s present, stop enabling him to be a man Child!