Do you get a lie in when you've dc?

[strawberryfoam]

Do you get a lie in at the weekend when you've young dc? Husband thinks we should take turns in having a lie in at weekend he takes Sunday whereas I've Saturday whereas I miss not been able to have breakfast all together or waiting on parent having a lie on to get up so you can get out and do stuff. A lie on for him is 11/12. We've neighbors with children of similar age and they're always up and out early each weekend

I try to give DH a lie in if he’s been work all week. I’ve been up since 7 today and he’s just getting up now at 9. Still plenty of time to do something if we want to. Before maternity leave, we’d alternate lie ins on my weekend off.

I get sunday and he gets Saturday. Rarely until 11 or 12 tho (unless we've been out very late or up with the children all night). We both try to be up, showered, dressed and ready by 9.30ish so the day doesnt get wasted away but if i know hes gonna be longer i tend to take the kids to the park or something so we've done something and not sat and waited for him.

So you want dh not to have a lie in so you can have a family breakfast? Are you the Walton? You are VU. I would prioritise my lie in over your breakfast every time.

I think his suggestion is fair. Why not make it a brunch?

I dont get lie ins but i am a single parent

Yes but for us a lie in isn’t until latest 9am so it doesn’t ruin the whole day. And if we want to do something we are all up and out early. I only get 2 days ‘off’ a week and don’t want to waste them!

Well for me a lie in is 1hr past normal getting up time, 2 at most.
So if he usually gets up at 7:30, then 9:30 is a very good lie in.

Otherwise you waste the whole morning waiting for everyone.

We don't do lie ins. When DS gets up, we both get up. We get enough sleep, a lie in isn't necessary. We only have a lie in if one of us is particularly ill. We'd both rather be up and spending the day together on DH days off.

Yes we take it in turns. Only until about 9.30 though unless a night out has been involved then it's until we feel well enough.
If we both lay in until 11 it would really impact on our time doing stuff with the kids.

We used to take turns when DS was little and waking at 5/6am every morning and I lived for that weekly lie in.
A lie in for us was until 8/9am at the latest though.

we sometimes try and take it in turns but doesnt always work coz of the noise lol!!
You can still get out and do something in the afternoon if you have a lie in one day of the weekend!

Once in a blue moon our toddler will sleep till 10am and we both get a lie in!! That does not happen very often tho... usually its 7am regardless of what day it is bleurgh

We take it in turns. I'm still in bed and DH has taken DD out to an activity. I'll get up now, do a couple of jobs and DD and I have plans to do some Mother's Day craft stuff this afternoon to make things for Grandma. DH doesn't usually surface until lunchtime on a Sunday, which drives me mad, but tomorrow we are going out for lunch with his mum so he will have to drag himself out of bed before midday.

We have a lie in, but till 8 or 9. I’d find it quite hard to be stuck in and trying to keep quiet till lunchtime.

DS1 has training Saturday morning so a lie in for me is till 7:30. DH gets up last minute to take him. DS makes his own breakfast (training was a painful process but worth it in the end!). Sundays depend on ds1s football match kick off time but if it's late I might get up early and go for a run. Or not.
In the pre-football days we would share lie ins. Rarely would we lie in together

Yabu. Dp gets Saturday i get Sunday.

If you want a family breakfast you give up your lie in and let your dh keep his.

We do alternate Sundays when dp isn’t at work so one a month each, generally until about 9 as Ds has swimming lessons at 10. DP works every Saturday so it’s a normal day for us.

A lie in for us is agreed til 9 unless we're ill or something.

We take it in turns, but i get annoyed if DP sleeps past 9 as he takes so long to 'wake up properly' we've lost 3/4 of the day by the time he is ready to actually do anything. DD is a terrible sleeper so we need our lie ins, if prioritise that over breakfast every time

It would piss me off if you woke me to have breakfast when you knew I wanted a lie in. Just have brunch or lunch together.

I do get a lie in. Dh does less frequently as he prefers to get up. I think your dh's plan sounds good. Even if we all get up at the same time we don't have a family breakfast as different people are at different stages of getting ready. Family dinner, yes, but not breakfast.

At the moment we both get up when ds1 gets up because I'm guaranteed to be awake with newborn anyway and dh is on toddler duty. We both try to nap when toddler has his morning nap though. Unfortunately though that usually means DH sleeping and me breastfeeding baby. I'm accepting of that for now because baby is only little and will only settle with me. It also means our weekends are very quiet as we don't get moving until lunch time and then toddler wants his second nap. It works for now with such a little age gap but I hope once ds2 is six months I can feed him and then give him to DH for solids for breakfast. We might well alternate then although DH will be working full time and have started his studying so it might not get easier

Can't you compromise and each have a lie-in until say, 10am?

That seems really fair to me OP. As others said if you're wanting a family breakfast then it's reasonable to sacrifice your lie in since you want the breakfast.

Or is this about Mother's Day since it falls on his usual lie in day? 🤔

I think it's a bit unreasonable to prioritise family breakfast over sleep / a bit of downtime, especially if your dc are really early risers. However, a lie in until 11 (unless a one off after a late night or feeling ill) I think is taking the mickey and takes a big chunk out of the day. If your dc have been up since 5 it also feels like a loooong time. Could you compromise on him being up and ready by 10 and have a planned outing? If you don't really appreciate your lie in, maybe suggest a family breakfast Saturday and then you get a couple of hours later in the day to have some downtime while he has the kids.

Currently expecting my second. Both work long hours and are shattered. Our weekend lie ins (one each) really help us catch up on rest and it’s nice for ds to have some one on one time with each of us. When the second arrives it’ll stop for a while but when they’re older we will probably still do it on weekends we have nothing planned

Getting up early for a "family breakfast" sounds horrible to me, but each to their own! You could make it a family brunch instead.