Do you get a lie in when you've dc?

[strawberryfoam]

Do you get a lie in at the weekend when you've young dc? Husband thinks we should take turns in having a lie in at weekend he takes Sunday whereas I've Saturday whereas I miss not been able to have breakfast all together or waiting on parent having a lie on to get up so you can get out and do stuff. A lie on for him is 11/12. We've neighbors with children of similar age and they're always up and out early each weekend

We used to do this but I found my life in was always curtailed by ddcoming up to find me ,getting in bed and playing.At the time it left me exhausted but in retrospect those hours were just us time.
Now she's a teenager so I get uninterrupted lie instead.So I am just getting up for a cup of tea.

Dh and I take turns and choose friday which one we want. Sometimes one of us will take the kids out in the morning for breakfast or swimming. Then the other gets til whenever we come back.

But usually we message the other one at 10am to ask for a brew, 30mins waking up with a cuppa in bed.

We try to alternate lie ins. Usually until 9ish. I think 11 or 12 is a bit excessive every week as it really limits what you can do with the day, but would be fine occasionally.

I get all the lie ins as DH is a lark. This morning he got up at 6. I’ve just come downstairs, I got the 6yo to ask him to bring me coffee in bed and we had a cuddle and a chat in bed and then we all got up.

Our three are teenagers and the 6yo so he’s not having to get up and deal with babies or toddlers, it was different when they were younger.

We alternate lie ins. I am so tired all the time I would prioritise sleep over most things.

If you'd rather have a family breakfast than a lie in then you can choose that on your morning, surely? I've occasionally used my time off for something I'd prefer.

Our twins are 5.5 and they know to stay in their bedrooms until the sun is up on their Gro Clock. We set it for 8:30am in Sundays. Twin1 is usually asleep until then and twin2 plays or reads quietly in her bedroom (she wakes around 8am). We don't really need lay ins as 8:30 is a decent time to get up.

When they were little we took took turns to do the morning feed at weekends.

11/12 seems late as lie-ins go; here anything beyond 7am is a lie-in as we'e usually both up at 6am. Neither of us needs much sleep, though, or enjoys a lie-in, so it's less of a battle.

Nobody lies in here, (except the newborn), but I wouldn’t necessarily be against it.

We don't do the lie in thing unless one of us is ill or just generally exhausted and needs it but we don't keep score or take it in turns.

We don't see much of the dc or each other during the week and for us weekends are a chance to hang out together. But it depends what works for you as a family.

No lay in for me as I'm a single mum. But a lay in for me would be 8 or 9 am. No need to sleep half the day imo. I'm not really into family breakfasts, dinner yes but breakfast time is a no.

How old are dcs?

From 3 I let them up and watch tv on their own as long as one adult is awake.

Is he sleep deprived during the week?

It isn’t good for the body/brain to have a habit of sleep deprivation and lie ins to compensate- it doesn’t work like that.

You both need to be getting the right amount of sleep every night.

I wake at the same time 7 days a week. At the weekends I just spend longer in bed before getting up (c. 2hours), usually with dp sleeping next to me.

Dcs are usually doing their own thing or snuggled in with us on a screen.

We never do a family breakfast!

DD sleeps generally until 10 or 11 on weekends so have always had a lie in with her but now we've got a newborn so I've not been getting one but tomorrow I will - have pumped some milk and OH is going to get up with baby and let me sleep (if I write down everything he needs to do because he's worried he'll forget and then need to wake me up to ask!)

I think it's a bit unfair to deny a lie in just because you want to eat breakfast together, make it brunch or do breakfast together on your lie in day if you really want it.

No way would I prioritise family breakfast over lie in. We're both knackered, we need the extra sleep when we can get it.

Agree that lie ins are only til 8.30/9.00 though, except in exceptional circumstances.

We love lie ins here but our boys are older at 6 and 9. DH is still in bed, I got up at 930 which is early for me on a Saturday. Kids sort themselves out with regards to breakfast.

They have breakfast so early we quite often still manage a decent brunch at 1030 ish!

I think it's the person whose lie-in it is who gets to choose how they want to spend it. So, that might mean not necessarily sleeping, just not dealing with young dc, and they might be awake reading or choosing to have a long soak in the bath or whatever. Or, they might, like you, prefer to spend their time with the kids anyway. Your mad choice.

But, that said, you could compromise on timings. Lunchtime is a bit much in my book.

We each get a lie in until 8. (DC up about 6.30)

We took it in turns at the weekend

Absolutely

I get up make ds breakfast that he has in bed he watches something on the iPad in bed with me and I snooze

Being on my own this is the only option but works fine

Still lazing in bed now

We both lay in on a sunday 😁 my dds are 9 and 5 they help themselves to fruit and a drink and watch tv until 10ish when I get up. They like the treat of morning tv and I get my lay in everyone's Happy!

But my dds struggle with activities/days out both days so we normally have Sundays as a pj lazy day.

Op the point really isn't what everyone else does though is it? Sounds like you are your DH just have different ideas about this. Neither of you is "right" as such. I couldn't lay in bed until 11 or 12 but I wouldn't dictate to my husband whether he could it not, as long as he was pulling his weight overall and not generally lazy. If you naturally prefer to get up earlier then there just be one weekend day when you can all be up and out early if that's what you prefer? Then maybe on his lie in day have a brunch at 12?

I do think some people genuinely need more sleep than others. You might not need a long lie in but he might. I certainly did and would have struggled even more for the rest of the week without one. A 10am lie in is certainly not unreasonable.

We alternate weekend lie ins. I get up with DS on a Saturday and DH stays in bed until 8:45 and then takes DS to football.
On Sunday, I get the lie in but since having DS I can't sleep much past 8:30.
The rule in our house is that if you get the lie in, you must come down washed and dressed and ready for the day so that the other parent can get ready and then we head out. Whoever had the lie in gets DS dressed.

We share lie-ins as well. DS is 14 months so breakfast involves lots of mess caused by weetabix/porridge. I can imagine with older children it would be nice to eat breakfast altogether but extra sleep is needed for us right now.

No. I just go to bed earlier.