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Ladies man? Am I being an idiot.....

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Comerainorshine1 · 10/03/2018 08:24

Please advise! I’ll try to be brief. I separated from my husband (my choice) a couple of years ago. We both got on with our lives but stayed in contact as we have children and it was amicable. He rediscovered a social life including going on to dating sites and I got on with things and had a relationship. Fast forward to a month ago I’m now single and he hasn’t met anyone he really wants to be with. We talked recently and he asked if there was a chance to try again, wanted to date and start from the beginning again. Tbh I had reservations but agreed to dinner. We went out had a great time and he said he still loved me. I asked if he was still using dating sites to which he replied “ no, if I wanted the single life I’d stay as I am but I want to make it work with you”. Since the dinner he has been calling/texting and wants me to go away with him at Easter. Can’t put my finger on it but it doesn’t feel right, so I decided to test it out. I set up a fake profile on a site I know he uses and messaged him saying “ hi, you look lovely I’d like to send you a photo” he replied I instantly saying “ Send away😀” I couldn’t believe it! It’s hardly incriminating but I feel like carrying it in to then have something to show him if I confront him. Am I being unreasonable in that we aren’t officially together yet? I just feel lied to and really don’t trust him

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Ebayaholic · 11/03/2018 15:33

How mindnumbingly predictable of him, you are better off without him

Ohyesiam · 11/03/2018 15:46

Op, why are you confused? He said he wasn’t using dating sites and he is. You have proof. That’s a lie, plain and simple.
We could go into the ethics of entrapment , or you could just listen to the truth you have uncovered, and honour your initial instinct that something was not right.
FWIW I think you have been very canny.
If you want a relationship wait for a man who does not lie or belittle you.
Sorry if this sounds a bit blunt, I’m ina hurry!

Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 15:49

Thank you ohyesiam judt pissed off feel like a fool. I’ll get over it by moving on, I won’t give him another chance.

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Ohyesiam · 11/03/2018 16:07

Sorry, just saw your update.
More power to you in your moving on.

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