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Not to want to have to go into the pool with DD2 at a swimming party

72 replies

MrsSchadenfreude · 06/05/2007 15:11

Invite says "parent must accompany their child into the pool."

I don't want to go fucking swimming.

DD2 is 6 and swims like a fish.

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NutterlyUts · 06/05/2007 15:14

Could you sit on the side and paddle, whilest letting her do her thing? I suspect that has been said as a sort of disclaimer against accidents

EmmyLou · 06/05/2007 15:16

Blimey - how weird. Has the birthday child's mum had a tummy tuck she wants to show off or something? The very thought of all those semi-naked rather embarrassed parents shuffling about trying to make smalltalk is making me larf...

SNOWBall4girlz · 06/05/2007 15:17

not unreasonable at all
how strange

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MrsSchadenfreude · 06/05/2007 15:19

Well I don't have time or inclination for bikini wax, so will just have to tuck in loose fronds.

Nutterly - no, I will be hiding my blubber underwater!

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twinsetandpearls · 06/05/2007 15:24

one of my friends has one of these parties every year and I hate it although I do get in the pool as I think it is a bit much to expect her to watch all the kids in the pool ( although the less kind part of me thinks why can't you just have a psrty on land FFS!

Legally do they not need so many adults in the water.

wheresthehamster · 06/05/2007 15:25

DP always used to go in the pool at these parties not me.

If I had to I'd go in shorts and t-shirt, sit by the pool and look like I was ready to dive in if it became necessary to do a spot of life-saving.

There are rules about under 8s and although the ratio of adult to children may be ok it's not really fair to expect other parents to be responsible for your child I suppose.

EmmyLou · 06/05/2007 15:27

I've never seen this on any invitation before - and my DDs have been to a fair few swimming parties. The only thing that struck me (apart from the giggles at the mental picture of sub aqua parental introductions) was that it might be one of those water adventure places which can be more difficult to supervise. Also, adult/child ratios for swimming activities for under 8's are quite high these days.

SofiaAmes · 06/05/2007 16:06

The pools that I used to go to in London required a parent to be in the water for every child under 8.

MrsWho · 06/05/2007 18:01

They may have put it on all invites as a security blanket in case they all got left unsupervised (I did similar last year but said to majority if it cause a problem to tell me and we would sort it out)

I would have been fine being left with a 6yo that can swim but IME majority can't and would need quite close supervision.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 06/05/2007 18:30

Apparently it was to do with the number of children and the fact that only 2 life guards were there. They hired the whole pool for the party, which was nice.

I didn't mind that much in the end, but kept myself submerged and dashed out early to get changed and avoid the rush in the changing room (which was communal).

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Twiglett · 06/05/2007 18:32

I like children's parties to have alcohol and snacks for adults .. not exercise

Aloha · 06/05/2007 18:33

Oh how GRIM!

DrunkenSailor · 06/05/2007 18:35

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littlemissbossy · 06/05/2007 18:35

I'm with twiglett on this one
I've never had a request like this for a swimming party, although TBH swimming parties for 6 year olds? bit young IMO you're bound to get quite a few even at that age who are still not confident in the water

pointydog · 06/05/2007 18:38

har!

I wouldn't want to go fucking swimming either

Aloha · 06/05/2007 18:40

I am laughing about the birthday boy's mum's tummy tuck. God, I'd be so stressed about this! I think I'd go on holiday to avoid it. Nah, I'd send dh.

littlemissbossy · 06/05/2007 18:42

Yep send your DH

maisym · 06/05/2007 18:43

wouldn't want to go swimming either! - a party to avoid.

MrsWho · 06/05/2007 18:44

Do none of you take your kids swimming?

can't believe how many people don't want to be seen in a swimimng costume!

littlemissbossy · 06/05/2007 18:46

I take my DCs swimming but wouldn't want to for a party - is that weird?? I don't know

maisym · 06/05/2007 18:48

would feel strange in a cossie infront of parents from school that I don't know well

Aloha · 06/05/2007 18:49

I don't want to be seen in a swimming costume in a social situation with people I know! Very different. I'm self-conscious enough with strangers. And I hate taking the children swimming tbh.

pointydog · 06/05/2007 18:50

I've taken them swimming but, yeah, it's the party context.

pointydog · 06/05/2007 18:50

Having to chit chat and smile while wearing swimsuit

MrsWho · 06/05/2007 18:52

No I get the don't want to be bothered with swimming party.

Just don't see the difference between wearing costume in front of other parents (who tbh won't look much better!) and in front of strangers.