Wedding gifts- cheap & cheerful?

[Paie]

I've been invited to a colleagues wedding in the summer, 2 weeks before my due date so I will be huge!
Money isn't great, and certainly won't be 2 weeks before DC2's arrival!
On the invitation it simply says "a donation towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated". Much like a thread I saw earlier the couple already live together, do not need household things ect.

I've only ever been to a few weddings- what on earth do we get them?

AIBU to try to make this gift as cheap as possible but not appear so?

Make no mention of presents on invitations, as if no-one would ever think to take a gift to a wedding?

Here's a newsflash: you don't need to mention it because people have brains! Most will think, 'Oh, they've been living together a while, I'll put a cheque in a card.' You don't need to tell them!

What if you don't have £20 spare? Guess they don't want you there.

Honestly, just don't bother going. Too close to your due date and you're spending another 40 quid you can't afford getting there just so you can hand over more? Nah.

Here's a newsflash: you don't need to mention it because people have brains! Most will think, 'Oh, they've been living together a while, I'll put a cheque in a card.' You don't need to tell them

But there are dozens of people on this thread who would never give cash and are hell bent on giving them all manner of tat like photo frames, luggage tags and his and hers mugs.

'But there are dozens of people on this thread who would never give cash and are hell bent on giving them all manner of tat like photo frames, luggage tags and his and hers mugs.'

And telling such people, 'Fund our honeymoon!' or any derivative of that, will not suddenly lead to such people handing over a wodge of cash. If you don't want tat the best thing to say is 'NO gifts' and repeat and repeat because there is no polite way of saying 'I only want your money' in an invitation.

I usually give a pair of antique champagne glasses, the cup-shaped ones - we were given a pair for our wedding and use them when it’s just the two of us, so it’s a nice romantic gift for a couple. You can buy sets of 6 in antique shops for around £50 and that does three weddings. You could also give a nice photo frame for them to fill with a wedding photo.

They might have set up home already, but that doesn't mean that having you at their wedding should cost them £100+
Fair enough if it's family, but I think it's a bit poor to go to a colleague's wedding and leave them out of pocket.

A bride and groom invite guests to enjoy their day with them and celebrate their marriage not to break even or make a profit through gifts and most gracious hosts would not want to see their guests struggling to provide an extravagant gift they can’t afford.

OP can you and you colleagues put money together in a joint card with a bottle of fizz?

So the ubiquitous toaster is now a photo frame. Seriously, people don't honestly give those, do they, except in maybe one of those white elephant gift swaps?

In our skinter days, I've just bought a really nice wedding card and that's been it. No gift, it was ok, we're still friends. No one really remembers wedding gifts unless they were amazing or really crap. My step brother got me one of those singing trouts, I can't actually say I appreciated that!

They’ve asked for cash so give cash; I’m getting married soon and I’d rather people didn’t give anything than waste their money on something I’ll never use or put on display.
What if everyone took that approach and they ended up with 15 mug sets and 15 photo frames. I haven’t been to a wedding where they ask for anything other than cash so I don’t see why people get offended. They’ll know vaguely how much you spent anyway so it’s not like a present really hides how much you’ve spent. Wouldn’t you rather think of them enjoying a lunch on their honeymoon with your £20 than some mugs sitting in the back of their cupboard

Just to echo a pp, we asked for honeymoon donations for our wedding and most people stuck to that (great!), a couple of guests bought us physical gifts (appreciated the thought, thankfully no tacky mugs or frames) and a few just gave us a card, no gift. Still totally happy they came to our wedding!

We were celebrating getting married with our friends and family. We weren't thinking about 'covering the cost of the plate'. Maybe it helps that we had a small ish wedding?