I am in a situation with my ex partner who has emotionally abused me for years . I have only just come to this realisation in the past 6 months . He has been staying with his mother as she is ill and did not have to stay every night ( he could have worked something out with his family ) there are careers going in everyday ! He works every day but tells people he is looking after his mother when he's not . He plays people for sympathy loves drama and is always the victim . He originally left as we had a mouse in our home and he used this as an excuse . Saying it was because of my hoarding that we had mice . He cannot seem to show love or his emotions . I really think he has a disorder if some sort but he seems able to function well in front of other people . At home he sits in a room of his own and cannot communicate with my daughter and I . I have lived a horrible life with him being emotionally abusive controlled and being ignored . I have accepted that he is the problem which has lead to my ill health in the last 2 years both physically and emotionally . He has never been a good parent either . I shouldn't ha d allowed it to go on so long . I need to know the right help to get for me and my child . Please advise as best you can as I don't know where to turn . He continues to come back here and goes to the room for 2 hours and then leaves . He asks my child if she's ok is everything ok in school . I could write his script every day . I have shut down completely from him and am in fear of him . I have communicated twice to him re taking my daughter to a couple of things .he takes her to her after school activities takes her for McDonald's and drops her home . She has seen how he disregards me and is not there for us . I want him not to come back and any person with any care for another person would see the pain and upset he is putting me and my daughter through . He is not normal obviously and even though the house is in my name I feel he is still trying to be in control of our home as he has been paying for half the bills monthly since we moved in . The issue now is my daughter she has started to display anger and emotional upset towards me . I know she needs help . I want to phone him now and tell him not to set foot in my door again because of what he has done to us emotionally . My daughter has a very Imp to her audition this weekend and it is the worse time to say anything . She is under stress in school with friendship groups and is struggling with one particular subject . The teacher shouted at her and humiliated her in class .i think this was what triggered her emotionally last night . I had my daughter in tears at 12 telling me she hated me and the anger she felt when I tried to calm her down was terrifying . We are very close . I know she afraid and under tremendous strsss with the situation with her father . She does not want me to say anything to him today as he is taking her to her audition at the weekend . Things have come to a head for me . I am done . I will not allow him to destroy her the way he has me . She was the most loving and happiest child until the turning point when her father left us to go and stay with his mother . She has an empty 5 bedrooms house . He is not homeless . He needs to leave us alone . I am concerned for my daughters emotional well being . Who can I ask for help re counselling and helping her to deal with this . She said she is not happy anymore and cannot deal with stress at home or in school . Please be kind . I want to do my best for her . I have never asked him to leave or tell him what he has done to us as he wouldn't listen . He Has support from anyone who will listen to him friends and family who all enable him and never stand up to him and tell him he may be wrong . I want to do this for my daughter . I want to do my job as a parent . I have always been 100 percent a good mother but I know by not sorting out this situation I am not . I will not allow this to go on but do not know where to turn for help for my child and me . I do not have supportive friends and what little family I have are far away . He has taken every ounce of my self confidence and left me a wreck both physically and emotionally . I am now unable to get out of the house . Please be kind and helpful I don't think I could take any more hurt not even from a stranger . I am reaching out here .