Regular user but NC as outing.
Back story; DP and I are young (22) and have one DD. We both work (me part time him full) but due to external reasons I may have to quit. We wouldn't be 'comfortable' but we'd survive and have a bit left over. I was intending for uni this year but that probably won't be possible. Ideally I'd wait until DD was in school but DP has a condition and the new medication will most likely make him infertile; the doctor said if we try for a family they can temporarily switch medication but it'll 99% do irreversible damage and most likely make him infertile. I don't really know what to do- it seems a situation of now or never. I've only just fully recovered from giving birth (traumatic birth) and I don't know if I'm strong enough to do it just now but on the other hand I've always wanted lots of children and that seems impossible now. I'm always going to be grateful for DD but if push came to shove, I would rather have one now rather than never; however DP's illness can not be cured, only slowed down (genetic condition, not a deadly one but will make him very uncomfortable forever and will most likely shorten his life expectancy- they said it's unlikely past 65 but probably be unable to work after 50). AIBU to have another baby now? I just don't know what to do 