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Shampoo Pettiness AIBU?

69 replies

EndisinSight · 08/03/2018 14:20

I keed to now whether AIBU to mention something or not..

We're not a well off family, we get by. The one luxury I have is my shampoo. I have very long, thick hair so I like to treat myself to a decent shampoo. Now the problem is, we have a relative staying with us temporarily for a few months. He has short hair but seems to be using my shampoo every day and a lot of It!

When I went to wash my hair this morning most of the bottle has gone! I only bough it a couple of weeks ago and do not wash my hair everyday. There's 2 other 'men's shampoos available so why the hell is he using ALL my shampoo? I did point out to him when he first arrived which things were mine and which things to help himself too.

AIBU and petty? It's genuinely annoying me that he's using my expensive shampoo everyday and it's almost all gone. Should I tell him to get his own in the future?

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Original poster
EndisinSight · 08/03/2018 14:21

No allergies either so he can't use that as an excuse!

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Mandeln · 08/03/2018 14:21

I'd put it away and just take it into the bathroom with you when you wash your hair.

Lilonetwo · 08/03/2018 14:22

Ugg that would annoy me too. Take your expensive shampoo with you when you leave the bathroom and keep in your room. (Or possibly the bathroom cupboard so it's not within tempting reach?)

Saves the awkwardness of asking him not to use it!

Mamimawr · 08/03/2018 14:22

I would move it to your bedroom, if he can't see it he won't be able to use it.

purplecorkheart · 08/03/2018 14:23

Keep it in your room and bring it to the shower when you need it. Sounds like he thinks this one is better for his hair.

ThisLittleKitty · 08/03/2018 14:24

Definitely keep it in your bedroom. Very cheeky of him.

unintentionalthreadkiller · 08/03/2018 14:25

Don't keep it in the bathroom!

FloydOnThePull · 08/03/2018 14:25

That would do my head in too. As a person who is quite petty but hates confrontation what I would do is, wait until your current supply runs out, buy some cheap stuff to replace it in the bathroom, buy your expensive stuff and keep it in your bedroom for you to take into the shower when you go for the duration of their stay then never invite them back

Original poster
EndisinSight · 08/03/2018 14:26

Thank you! A simple buy effective solution :) I'm glad it's not just me that finds it bloody cheeky!

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Bluelady · 08/03/2018 14:26

Hide it.

mojito55 · 08/03/2018 14:26

That's very rude as you've already told him what's yours. Definitely keep it in your room, especially as he'll be around a few more months! In that time he could shampoo you out of house and home Wink

Aprilmightmemynewname · 08/03/2018 14:27

Wee in the empty bottle and put it back.....

Branleuse · 08/03/2018 14:29

hide it if you dont want to say something

Trinity66 · 08/03/2018 14:31

Yes I echo everyone else, just keep it in your room, cheeky fucker though he is when you asked him not to use it

bluebells1 · 08/03/2018 14:31

@April Grin

Alltheshoes74 · 08/03/2018 14:32

Personally i'd be tepmted to put some kids of wierd colour toner in the empty bottle wiht the hope it dyes his hair :)
I HATE my shampoo and showergel being used - the other day my DS10 came out smelling of my best Jo Malone and i nearly cried!

user1493413286 · 08/03/2018 14:34

I’ve had that before with a boyfriend and it used to really piss me off; with a guest though I’d just take it out of the bathroom and he’ll get the point.
I’d expect someone staying more than a few nights to bring their own toiletries

squarecorners · 08/03/2018 14:35

Dh bathed our dog in my Molton brown bubbles once. I was doubleplusunpleased.

Snowysky20009 · 08/03/2018 14:35

^ that's why I keep my Jo Malone in my bedroom! Ds2 (14) would finish it within a week otherwise!

Backtotheoldhouse · 08/03/2018 14:39

I have to keep my favourite shampoo in the bathroom cupboard and just put in the the shower when I need it it or I know my DH would use loads of it. I used to keep finding deep finger marks in my moisturiser until I started putting it under the sink where he couldn't see it! He has his own products out all the time anyway!

mynameismrbloom · 08/03/2018 14:39

My ensuite doesn't have a window so I leave my moisturiser and makeup in the main bathroom where there is better light.

I once had a friend help himself to my Crème de la Mer, great handfuls of it, to put on his new tattoo! He must have used £50 worth or more, I'm not joking. Angry

I learned that people help themselves and to hide stuff you don't want using.

Celebelly · 08/03/2018 14:41

Urgh! Agree with the others. Maybe make up a little washbag and take it in and out with you (that way it's less obvious if he sees you sneaking out with shampoo in hand!)

GrannyGrissle · 08/03/2018 14:44

I think stuff left in communal spaces is fair game unless stated so either lock the lid on or take it with you when you shower Am ignoring the beautiful hair stealth boast as someone who can only dream of having thick hair Grin

Beamur · 08/03/2018 14:47

Fill up the empty bottle with some cheap shampoo and leave it in the shower. Buy some more and hide it.

kelper · 08/03/2018 14:48

We have a steady stream of foster teens and friends of DH staying here over the years.
In the shower is basic shampoo, conditioner and shower gel.
All my lovely shampoos and shower gels, DS's stuff and DH shaving stuff is hidden in a cupboard ;) Perfect solution, and stops me getting wound up un-necessarily ;0)