AIBU Mother’s day

[Kika2901]

Feel free to put me in my place but does anyone else’s husband put as much efforts

why is he just doing this extra Grandmother card to HIS mum? if he is doing it, why isn't he doing it to both sets of grandmothers (assuming they are both around?)

YABU and very petty. Nice things done for others do not diminish nice things done for you. The grandmother is a mother in your dc's family. Why on earth shouldn't they be part of making her Mother's Day special?

I could understand it if you were getting nothing and she was getting presents, but "I should get more than her" is petulant and childish.

What exactly is it that annoys you about this?

Do you feel that your role as a mother is diminished?

In my experience Mother's Day seems to be about the matriarch .. My dh is very good but the focus is always on the elders .. 🤷‍♀️

I think yabvu. Your dh is doing a nice thing and teaching your children to be thoughtful. The fact that they are giving their grandmother cards and a gift on Mother’s Day does not take away from you in any way.

And I’d like to point out that cards to grandmother on mother’s day are not new. I lost my much loved grandmother almost four years ago and found it very upsetting the first year I didn’t have to buy a “to grandma on mother’s day” card. The cards have been available for as long as I can remember,certainly not just within the last 10 years.

It used to be the case that Mother's Day was all about MIL and DM, but now that my DDs are a bit older they are more interested in giving me cards and flowers so it's become more of a day for me now. Although I'm not sure that would have happened if the girls hadn't done Mother's Day cards at nursery and then school.

They love it now and I do too, it didn't use to mean much as my DM didn't rate it very highly.

Oh for heaven's sake. Does it matter? Lovely to commemorate mothers, fathers and loving people. No need for competition about who gets or gives what. Tens of millions of pounds worldwide for card manufacturers and industries selling this to us. Small hand made card, bar of soap. That would do me.

I think it's actually really sad that you don't just see this as a nice thing. I actually feel a bit sorry for you that you see something so lovely as so negative.

I was partly raised by my Great-grandparents so I always gave my Great-grandmother an equal (or better) gift then I gave to my actual mother...

We don't have mothering day in US just Mother's Day and no one ever seemed to think it was weird that I did this.

Your complaint seems really petty and jealous OP.