Too keen at beginning?

[Tookeenornot]

What would you define as too keen following first few dates with someone?

Talking marriage and babies.

Being the first to always message or ring.

It should be a two way thing.

Camping in your garden.

Lol! Guessing these have all happened?!? How about if someone talks about places they will take you/is eager? In a sweet way but eg mentions their favourite restaurant and says “we should go”?

That sounds fine to me. They're just letting you know they like you.

Mentioning a restaurant to go to is normal, as long as they're not saying it would be great for the wedding reception.

Ok good! He also said (we went to a weird place on our first date!), I hope that one day we’re able to look back at this and laugh! Is that too keen? Doubting self haha

No red flags. Relax and enjoy it all.

Keep the stories coming though - there are blind to be some good ones

Get a grip.

Yours is pretty normal OP :D

I did a "run like the wind" on the marriage and babies guys

My husband of 20 years told me he was going to marry me the day we met. Glad I wasn’t put off 🙂

Nah my dp mentioned something cringe the day we met and I said along the lines of ‘when we’re old we’ll look back on this and laugh.’
We had just met. Literally. Just. Met.

Fortunately, he didn’t think I was a crazy knows better now and we’re happy as anything nearly 3years on from that!

That sounds fine to me. They're just letting you know they like you

Or mwybe they're trying to fill a void and are insecure. These things seldom last.

Get a grip

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My DH told me he loved me the day after we met, we have been together 12 years, married 8 and have 4 children.
I cant stand all that bullshit of not being too keen at the beginning, I'd rather know if he was interested or not so I dont waste my time.

True about rather knowing someone was interested! But my logic is, if they’re like that with me without knowing me, how do I know they’re not like that with every girl?!

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Well it’s ridiculous. If the OP is questioning this (saying he wants to take her to his favourite restaurant) then it doesn’t even sound like she’s into him anyway.

I cant stand all that bullshit of not being too keen at the beginning, I'd rather know if he was interested or not so I dont waste my time

Because some people like to get to know someone before declaring their love. If someone loves you so early in the relationship without knowing you then what do they really love?

Irony is I am keen but questioning his motives is making me worry!!! Has no one else ever felt similar?!?

You might be together forever, or break up soon. As long as you are happy, stop worrying about what might happen. Enjoy the here and now.

Tattoo of your name on the third date- too keen.

Another tattoo underneath of your future children's names- run.

mentions their favourite restaurant and says “we should go”?

That's your metric for too keen? Either he's not your type and you are looking for excuses or you really don't like fellas who are actually interested and nice. Either way- dump him, there are plenty of game playing dicks who are more your type :-)

Sad to say I’m not used to being treated that nicely!!!

Sad to say I’m not used to being treated that nicely!!!

I wonder whether that is the issue? Keenness can be a red flag when taken to pressuring, clingy extremes, and you should trust your instinct; but if it's just that he likes you and says so, I would have thought that's what you want.

Be warned that some men do this is order to lull you in..... It's called something (future faking?) in order for you to sleep with them!!!