Too keen at beginning?

[Tookeenornot]

What would you define as too keen following first few dates with someone?

@TheC

Yes...you are quite the C aren’t you.

I think it’s a bit odd to talk in those terms in the very early days. It could become a bit suffocating.

Be warned that some men do this is order to lull you in

Yeah, he's suggested a restaurant he likes and said they may look back at an odd experience and laugh.

The bastard is clearly just hinting at marriage to get a shag.

I think he sounds sweet. I was a bit too keen on someone once - he was a bit like you. We have now been together 15 years, happily married and I'm watching TV with our two boys right now. Good luck

He's obviously just keen (or she). It's not like they're stealing your knickers off the washing line

I don't go on dates but I went on one once with someone I knew and he was talking about all the holidays I could take him on your holiday talk sounds normal though.

Thanks all! We’re meeting later at a restaurant near his and he’s just broached the whole going back to his thing. He said “great! There are a few bars nearby and my flat is round the corner so got all bases covered - I think you’ll love the restaurant!” Too forward?! I’m going to politely decline but don’t want him to think I’m just after free dinners (will obviously offer to pay!) I think if he mentions it tonight I will thank him for the evening but just be honest and say I’d like to get to know him better first/not rush things? Sound fair? Any advice?

will obviously offer to pay!

Insist on paying next time. I really think relationships that start on an equal footing have a much better chance in the long run.

Too forward?

Not at all, as long as he's not pushy. Some people's threshold is one date, some people's is marriage. The key is to both communicate expectations and respect boundaries.