Child at next table was whingeing, should I have stepped in?

[InSisu]

I went out for lunch earlier with my partner and 18 month old.
Whilst DP went to get a second helping (it was an all-you-can-eat!) I carried on eating mine and seeing to DS who was chomping away quite happily.
For about five minutes, I'd been aware that one of the children on the next table was being grouchy, crying a bit, generally playing up. It's nothing I haven't dealt with myself as a parent and I gave it no thought.
Then I heard, 'are you just going to sit there and not even try to help?'..thought nothing of it, glanced up and to my horror, the man at the next table had said it to me! He was dealing with his son who was now arching his back and trying to get him into his pushchair- mine does that quite a lot but I don't see it as anyone else's place to step in. AIBU?!

YANBU. That’s really weird. Why would you be expected to do anything?

Are you 100% sure he was saying it to you?

To be fair, it helps a lot if someone holds the pushchair whilst someone else straps the arched child into it. So I probably would have helped if asked.

Of course YANBU, there's no expectation that any random stranger should leap to help him with his own child! How odd. What did you say to him?!

I see no reason why it should be any of your business.

Are you sure he was speaking to you? It’s seems very odd to expect a complete stranger to help you with your own child.

I’ve had to deal with twin tantruming toddlers on my own and it never occurred to me it was anyone else’s responsibility to assist.

He did not say that.

Who in their right mind thinks like that?!

Are you sure he was talking to you and not his partner and that he just happened to glance over at you when you turned to look?

What happened after?

That’s what I would assume because if he was talking to you he WBVU.

What did you say?
I would have answered "yes I am. Obviously "

He can fuck off. Obviously one of these lovely men that thinks women are here to look after the world. What did you do?

I thought you were going to say you stepped in, and I would have thought that was really weird and out of place. So no, YANBU! Very strange he would say that.

YANBU. Can you imagine the outrage from most people if you offered to help? If he wanted help he could have asked. But to expect it is bizarre.

That is just weird. Who would expect a stranger to just jump up and help with their grumpy toddler?

I am assuming that he didn't have a female companion with him and was trying to delegate wife work to the nearest female. What a jerk!

Who would expect an adult stranger to interfere?

If he needed assistance he could have just asked whether you could possibly help

What did you say back?

What a knob. We've all been there and struggled on and help isn't to be expected. He could have kindly asked you. Besides, interefence from a stranger can make a child more upset. How did you respond?

Very very odd behaviour from him.

Cheeky git

Was he even talking to his own child who was presumably not having any of it?

9dd behaviour from the man. Of course not your place to intervene.

That's so odd I'd have assumed he was talking to his son..?

I’d have laughed and said fuck off, as if!

And it would only ever be a man asking a woman wouldnt it.

He can bugger off and look after his own stroppy kid. Not your problem.

i would have replied if you had asked nicely i would have helped you but i dont help entitled people, your kid your problem

Could you have misunderstood who he was talking to? I was running along in the rain once, carrying my toddler on my hip. She was giggling away and I told her 'I'm glad YOU find this amusing!' only to make eye contact with someone standing on the street as I said it. I'm sure it sounded like I was randomly attacking them for no reason.

That's weird. It would have been different if he'd made some sarcastic comment to someone who was staring/tutting etc... but to have a go at someone clearly minding their own business is bizarre.