Last week DH's nephew, his sister's son, aged 11, who lives abroad, sent DH a voice message on whatsapp using his mother's account: "Uncle I am traveling to London this summer, can I order anything I like from the air hostess. when I fly as an unaccompanied child?"
I overheard this as DH played the message on speaker.
We have two boys 5 and 7, and no immediate family nearby.
Unbeknown to me DH then made arrangements to make a detour during his business trip in July to pick up his nephew and fly with him to London on the last leg.
When he told me about his itinerary I plainly said no, please don't bring anyone back, I have my hands full with our two boys, which DH helps very little.
DH is displeased but agreed, asked his sister not to make travel arrangements for her son via Whatsapp. She replied: Fine if he is not welcomed.
Before DSIL's family moved abroad they lived on the same street three houses away, DH's nephew used to come and play everyday at 6pm after his dinner, unaccompanied, and stay till 7. i made the point to stop his daily play visits when my 2nd son was born, too much work for me.
In the five years of living on the same street my older son was allowed into her house to play about four times. Each time accompanied by DH. I often overheard the kids' conversation when DS asked if he would go to nephew's house to play the toys he was talking about, and nephew replying a stern No. Many times we walked him back to the door of his house and DS asked Can I go in? And nephew stood in front of him and said No, looking alarmed.
DSIL is often aloof, won't even make eye contact let alone hello or thank you.
DH would always say: yeah she is a bit like that. And think nothing of it. I am just annoyed. Nephew is Not Welcomed? What do I say? It's in our family Whatsapp group