When is enough enough?

[Perfectdisaster]

We never have sex yet I was watching the tv and a bizarre screen came on which delightfully alerted me to the fact my DP was watching porn..(he had been streaming music earlier and it must still be connected) .. he has trouble getting and maintaining an erection on the rare occasion he has attempted sex so I’m quite baffled. Any advice?

I'm in a similar situation and feel lost which direction to take. I've avoided talking about it for years but recently I have been made aware I shouldnt feel obliged to accept things as they are.

Just to put a different slant on this. I have lots of difficulty with sex because I was abused as a child. I will actively avoid intimacy even though I feel sexual desire. I can completely imagine watching porn whilst avoiding sex , and it's even worse if it's someone I love and am sexually attracted to like my husband. This is very difficult for us but Luckily he is very understanding. For me sexual desire , intimacy and love are really complicated. At times I would do anything to avoid sex whilst simultaneously feeling sexy.
It could be be that your partner does find you sexually attractive, but like me, someone in his past has screwed his head up.

That has crossed my mind but he won’t talk x

I’m sorry to hear that has happened to you x