Why are mothers such bitches?

[GinUser]

Mine has told me over the years:
She was very annoyed to be pregnant with me
I shouldn't have children
She was surprised I was having a wedding
I am a manipulative cow

Mine can be very cruel, racist, judgemental, sexist, bullying, and has no sympathy, she's homophobic and still has tantrums like a child- kicking her feet and squealing. She's 62.
My friends have lovely mothers. Not everyone is the same.

They aren’t.

My Mum was beautiful, kind, and to me she was perfect. If I can be half the Mum to my DS that my Mum was to me then I’ll be happy.

Sorry ginuser

Not all mothers are bitches though

Some are though!!

I've been NC with my mother for 9 years now.

YANVU not all mothers are rubbish though I am so envious of friends whose mothers are great.

Some mothers are truly awful, and no one deserves that kind of shit.

But be the change you want to see in your life!

My mum was a right cow, but I’m a fantastic mum.
I mindfully chose to be better than she was. Therapy helped.

Btw Who made you the “good” language police @greenbeansqueen? Irony abounds.

My mother is 'complicated'. I dont know anyone who dislikes her in any way but to me she has been incredibly cruel all my life.

My grandmother is exactly the same to my mum and I believe my great grandmother was too with my grandmother.

The best thing you can do is make sure you do everything not to behave the same way.

You can curse yours to hell and back, but don't involve mine in this. Mine was fucking awesome. Don't even begin to imply all mothers are like yours. I am rarely offended or offendable, but your post is fucking nasty.

I think you need to remove this toxic person from your life

I don't think most mothers are like that, but possible reasons for the less than nice ones:

1. Difficult pregnancy and labour, PND afterwards making bonding difficult
2. Hard time looking after the child, isolated at home or something
3. Resentful of the above and other sacrifices that had to be made, maybe even jealous that DC had easier lives
4. Blaming DCs for something else that's gone wrong in their lives, pressure on relationship or career, for example.

They're not.
Mine is amazing.

Sorry yours isn't, but don't extrapolate.

Mine is less than stellar (highlights include telling me she wished I was a cot death statistic when I was rather small/wanting me to abort the baby I'm pregnant with because she finds me being pregnant too stressful/using me as a marriage guidance counselor for as long as I can remember and getting me to help clean up the blood after I watched my father almost bleed to death in front of us following a nasty row when I was 5) but my Grandmother makes her look like Mother of the Year.

She had postnatal depression, couldn't cope leaving her safety net behind when DF was posted abroad and generally just hasn't grown up. DF is currently dying and I'm the adult in the relationship with my mother and always have been. He tells me stuff he'd never tell her and expects me to lie to her, his only concern is that she won't cope when he's gone and she won't.

However having experienced my mother, I'm doing my best to ensure that ds and the bump never feel the need to make posts like this about me.

DM was terrific and terrifying in equal measure. I could have done without the first 16 years, but after we established that any further attempt at discipline or belittling would earn a lethal response, we got on well. I didn't weep for her death, but I was sorry she no longer could act as an example of courage, intellect and ethics to the GCs.

mums are really big bitches

Mine is too.
Thankfully I have a lovely MIL now.

You mean SOME mothers are bitches.
Mine is a fantastic mother and grandmother.
I’m sorry that yours wasn’t.
There are obviously many, myriad reasons why she was the way she was.
What were her parents like?

Amongst many other things, mine told me she'd have no problem stabbing me, asked me when I was 14 if I fancied her husband yuk! Got married without telling me, said if I died she'd take my youngest in, but the other 2 would go in care. Unsurprisingly we are, apart from the odd card and polite thank you on messenger, non contact. Mind it took me till I was 45 to achieve this status, went through so much guilt. On the other side now, thankfully.

Sad to hear these! Sad that people have really terrible mothers, and also sad for myself that mine, while not ‘terrible’, definitely isn’t many of the lovely things described above.. endlessly supportive, encouraging, my best friend, showing unconditional love etc. Trying to be better at it for my daughter..

As you can see, a lot of posters are bitches too 😢

Your mum is abusive and I'm sorry for what you've been through and are still going through. There are some good, supportive threads in relationships, maybe repost in there?

If you are a dog then yes, all mothers are bitches.

@ViciousJackdaw

If you are a dog then yes, all mothers are bitches.

Better than being a failed cunt eh!

Mothers aren’t bitches, yours is!

My mother isn’t a bitch, I’m a mother and I’m not a bitch.

2 year old zombie thread re-animated by a bored teenager. Right....

You are unlucky and your own mother has serious issues. It's not about you, it's her. It's very hard to get your head around it when it's your own mother, but it has nothing to do with you.

and ignore greenbeansqueen

some people are only on here to wind posters up.

Zombie thread resurrection. 🧟‍♀️