Cards only addressed to boyfriend/husband?!

[Sassychiccy]

This is annoying me, perhaps I’m just being silly. Have received a number of cards recently and they aren’t addressed to me just my partner... they were for moving. That’s odd, isn’t it?

Maybe he got New Home cards and your Good Luck cards are stuck in the post?

Who were they from? Do they know you?

Yeah that’s weird, if you’re in a lt relationship and We’re moving together why wouldn’t you get joint cards?

Yes that's odd. His name first because he's the one they know I'd understand but not omitting your name altogether.

Is it just the envelope with his name on? Or the card aswell?

That is really odd. Before I was married, when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend my now DH and I still got our new home cards addressed to both of us. It's as though they don't know you're living together.

His relatives but yes they know me. I didn’t think we had fallen out...

Are they people that know you both?
If it's work colleagues, I could understand only one name. Family members and close friends no, it's rude.

The card.

Moving company cards? If so it must be a thing. We are moving too and they’ve all been addressed to DH apart from one which just had our address. It’s annoying but I wouldn’t waste much time thinking about it.

Incredibly rude.

Hmmm, yeah that is a little weird.
How long have you been together?

Sorry cross post. If from people who know you it’s just weird and rude.

Glad it’s not just me!

Cards as in ‘welcome to your new home’ ones

I've been with my husband 19 years this year - his "darling" sister sends our Christmas card addressed to just my husband every single year.

She does put my name inside the card but the envelope just "Mr A Little Quinnie"

It's the only card we get like it - every single other card addressed to the two of us.

I don't understand it at all - she does absolutely HATE me though so that might have something to do with it...

... I always think she addresses the envelope like that to let me know it's not intended for me too but hasn't got the guts to miss the name out inside the card? She's a wierdo anyway but that's another thread!!!

I never include a partner on a card unless I count them as a friend too. I just think there’s too much invested in people forgetting how to be one person rather than everything being done as a duo. Your taking it personally. He’s their relative, your not.

Fair enough booboo, but not even on a new home card?

That’s so annoying Quinnie!

When we get a lot of cards, eg Christmas, I like to open the ones from my friends and family, and DH likes to open the ones from his friends and family. So it's very helpful if my friends address the card to MD of Pandiculation, even if the card itself is written to Mere and Mere's DH. @alittlequinnie I suspect this is why your SIL does it, so that DH opens his sisters card, even though the greetings are to your both.

Whenever we've had a baby (we have 3), sil writes 'DH name & family'

I see her almost every week. We are definitely no strangers. She just can't bear writing my name, it seems.

Sorry I meant to say she writes that inside the card

Bitch !

Yanbu, I had a bereavement card off dh's nan and no joke - addressed to him!

No i probably wouldn’t unless like I said there were a friend too. I guess it depends on whether you see people as purely a couple or as two separate beings.

But these are relatives not friends. But I respect your view.