To ask what the final straw was for you?

[Timeforachange2018]

Aibu to ask what finally ended your relationship with your partner?

My DP is behaving, frankly, like a total cunt and the toxic atmosphere at home is unbearable. We literally can’t be in the same room & hold a civilised conversation and I am SO tired and worn out. I feel like the joy has been sucked from my life.

What ended it for you?

When he had zero interest in celebrating my birthday. Turns out he’s been shagging someone from work for 18 months. He had no trouble celebrating her birthday

Ex used to regularly get upset with me for “things I’d done wrong” like not having the money to pay for another car repair. He’d ignore me for three days then text to say he was taking DD as I was unfit mother. On the third time he did this I grew some self respect and told him he wouldn’t be taking her and to get lost. I’d have done a lot to stay together for DD but realised the constant abuse was not a good example to set for her

When he cheated on me for the second time. After years of putting his needs and wants first each and every time, I decided that I deserved better. So I left.

When the relationship with OW ended, he requested me on Facebook. I took great pleasure at marking him as "spam"

I don't regret ending it. The only regret I have is not ending it sooner.

When I woke up one morning at 6am to a phone call from ex-p's best friend, telling me that they had been out together the night before but ex-p had gone home with another woman. Ex-p hadn't come home and I needed to be at work by 7am. It was like a switch went off in my mind, I rang into work and I got up and dressed both me and DS1 and I was there ready and waiting for him when he strolled in at 7.30. It took me until 11am to get him to leave and he denied it til he was blue in the face. He only left the house as one of his other friends turned up to see if wanted to go for a drink. He had moved in with the OW by that evening.

In the grand scheme of things the cheating was a very minor offence, he used to abuse me physically, financially and sexually. 17yrs on he is no different and has treated every one of his subsequent partners the same.

When he threw 3 year old DS across the room on to his bed, Then kicked the front out of the wooden toy box.

When I looked at him and realised I genuinely did not give a shit anymore.

When I’d been in a sexless marriage for six years and one morning, putting clothes away in one of his cupboards, found a wash bag with dozens of different condoms with different use by dates, lots of sachets of lube from gay clubs all over the world (he travelled a lot for work), and a wrist band for Brighton Pride.

Christ. Daren't post mine due to horrific experiences of others above.

This is a horrible world.

When I fainted after donating blood and he refused to come and get me. The blood people said I couldn't leave until someone came to take me home and care for me (to be fair, I could barely sit up let alone walk home). He refused to pick me up, I phoned him several times and in the end the man who was looking after me spoke to him telling him I needed picking up. Half an hour later he rings to say he's waiting in the car outside, but I need help walking down two flights of stairs so another 20 mins pass til he finally gets off his arse to fetch me. I told him to leave that night.
I had put up with 5 years of gaslighting, mental abuse, financial abuse and some physical abuse but his refusal to just come pick me up, even when someone else told him it was non-negotiable, was just the straw that broke the camel's back.
I was so much happier on my own and so was my ds.