To ask teachers what your pet peeves are?

[Collettegirl]

Personally mine are wet playtimes, and children who don't have a pen/pencil.

Oh dear, get off. for my autocorrect.

OP. For future reference, you would have been better off starting this in the staffroom topic.

readermum - I think OP meant the teachers should share their pet peeves. Not people share their pet peeves about teachers (although doubtless some people will do just that!).

There are times in school when the unexpected happens and often, that is difficult for a child with a diagnosis of ASD or if it’s suspected. The child’s teacher phoning in sick, for example, can’t be predicted, but can be prepared for to a certain extent by explaining that sometimes there are ‘oops’ times and things are not the same as they usually are.

It’s not really fair to blame anyone in that situation though.

swingofthings if your children didn't lose their things then the names not being in them is irrelevant isn't it. It becomes relevant when a very angry parent comes in demanding to know where their child's items are, when they are exactly the same as everyone else's and they have no name in. Those parents decide that staff should be personally escorting their child's belongings all day so it is still the fault of staff if it is missing. No sensible, 'you should have been looking after your things' from those parents.

Not a teacher but enjoying this thread!

Even if that is not the case, not all changes in school can be managed I know last minute changes are inevitable but preparing an autistic child for them should ALWAYS happen, even if it means taking them out of class to do thi. Otherwise you can't blame the child (or parents) if they get upset.
Also putting in accommodations like this should be based in the child's NEEDS not diagnosis.

Curlyhaired

We do provide equipment. Still annoying when children return from break and 3 or 4 have suddenly lost their pencil.

The following conversation with a parent "He's lost 2 jumpers, can you have a look for them?" "Have they got his name in?" "No, but they're blue, age 3-4"
To be fair uniform in general is a pain in the backside, the youngest children should be in joggers, t-shirt and hoodie to give them a slight chance at being independent.

Another one is having to use behaviour charts to shame children into 'being good' I avoid as much as possible but I'm not allowed to take down the class behaviour chart we have on display as it's a schoolwide system.

These threads are great. The professionally offended will moan as usual, or will take everything personally, but for the rest of us it might make us think of something we didn't even realise we were doing.

If you don't agree with the teacher, then keep going. One teacher's opinion is not a universal rule either.

Oh dear, the thread about this thread got deleted it. Time for that OP to try to start an "absolutely fummin" viral facebook post. Liked and shared hun

The chair throwing is just one example.

The parents say there is nothing wrong with him at all, all behaviour is because of the school.

The child has been around 3 different schools in the area...

Nursery teacher but my only pet peeve is when parents don't cut up grapes.

It takes forever to get round cutting them all up.

Leaving my lunch at home/in the car. Forgetting my water bottle. My very messy desk is a constant source of annoyance to me-no matter what resolution I make, no matter how tidy it is at the beginning of the day, by the end it has disappeared under a heap of clutter! I can’t wait for July to really get stuck in to that room and empty it. (Inherited it in September and haven’t had time to really get stuck in as I’ve also changed class and it’s more important to get to grips with that first.) So those are my three pet peeves-luckily all within my own remit to change!

Talking during teaching or doing a task then asking what to do.
Don't have a pencil.
Bickering and petty tell tales.
Parents who think the sun shines out of their child.

birds

Kittycattycoco a child not being toilet trained? It can't always be helped. A Parent not being able to afford a school trip?

Yes, because you have taken these comments grossly out of context to suit your own agenda. The peeves relate to the kids who aren’t toilet trained due to having parents that can’t be arsed, and parents who complain there aren’t enough school trips and then moan that they’re expensive when they’re arranged - believe it or not but some parents believe school trips should be free. These comments are not slights on people financial circumstances or medical states. They refer to a very commonplace parent that teachers see in schools, where teachers are expected to fill a parental rather than pastoral role. There is a difference.

Stop twisting people’s comments to infer teachers are an insensitive, ignorant, uncaring bunch. And, in case you wish to suggest I have no compassion or understanding of the needs of SEN students, I assure you, from both a professional and personal/family standpoint, I do.

To be fair though when I worked in reception in early 00s I don't remember any dc in nappies. One girl did wet herself but it was easily sorted out.

@Thesmallthings Presumably you have asked them to? It would never have occurred to me to cut grapes if I was sending them somewhere I don't think. (In fact as my youngest was 2.5 when we got her, I didn't even know that cutting grapes was a thing to do until I read MN).

I haven't picked this for my options so don't need to bother.

I get the feeling from what my year 9 ds relays from school this is a sad fact and attitude of some of his peers. He says he feels sorry for some of his teachers - especially more specialised subjects where only maybe 20-30 of whole year group will take it. (Art/food tech etc)

Ds is crap at art and languages. Yet he's been told quite bluntly from me that means his effort probably needs to be greater than his peers because until May he's doing them and bloody well doing his best. Ds knows that some subjects will help him with other areas of the curriculum even if his achievement in those subjects is below par.
Eg - art =fine motor skills and helps with handwriting which does matter. MFL = learning to spell differently and listen carefully to what's said.

Not a Teacher but I did consider it for a while! This thread has reminded me why it would not have been a good idea - all of these would peeve me too! They have made me laugh though!

Kinsorino Again though, the example was pointing out a typical asd behaviour in an undiagnosed child that the parents were in denial of. The key issue was parental denial which makes getting support harder, diagnosis or not. That pp didn't say 'this behaviour was happening every day' they gave a specific example. Potentially a situation that could not be avoided. They didn't blame the child, or really the parents for the behaviour. It was the denial of a problem in the face of obvious evidence that was the point of that post.

That parent who sends long ranty emails at almost midnight after a few glasses of wine.

That's me

That parent who thinks their very average child is a genius.

That's also me

Teachers - we love you!! 💖
Teachers - we appreciate it must be bloody hard looking after 30 children (I struggle with 2!)
Teachers - we get the parents are more annoying and harder to manager than the kids .... and I for one am sorry for my failings as a parent at the school

But ..... please bare with us parents! Especially in primary! .... we live our kids (well most ignorant us do in sure) and it's just reeeeeeaaaaallly really hard being a parent! We want the best for our DC and that's why we turn into psychopaths when our children flee the nest and enter the playground [santa]

We love u teachers

Also another who agree about autistic children reacting to change. Read above about how I support schools and have high expectations of ds. But he's autistic. When he has a cover teacher and doesn't know in advance, who doesn't know he's autistic or hasn't read his EHCP he'll inevitably end up in meltdown. Even his school admit faint when this happens.

'I aaaaaaaaaam.'

You're clearly not.

Sorry - 'love' our kids not 'live'