Aibu to wish he'd stop moaning?

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Dh's recent choice (quitting his job for one that pays 50% ish what the old one did. Without telling me and without preparation).has meant that im making huge cutbacks now. I manage the family finances and tbh most of the cutbacks effect me but there are effects on him too. Like cancelling his gaming subscriptions (one for PS4/PSN or whatever it's called and one for magazines) and he can't buy anymore parts for his computers, which is his hobby. But for fucks sake you'd think I'd drop kicked him in the face! Exact conversation

Him "But can't i at least have $x a month for parts"

Me: "No, because our food budget is minimal, our bills fixed and there's nothing I can do to magic up more money".

Him: "Can i at least keep PS+? Can we afford that?"

Me: "No we can't, see here, here and here. We cannot afford it, sorry babe"

"But I quit working at Y so I'd have more time for these things! What the fuck."

This is a choice he made without consulting me at all (literally came home and told me, I had 0 notice).

If we don't make these kinds of cutbacks we'll be starving on the streets. So it must be done. It will be minimum costs from here on in. This also includes cutting down to 1 car, which is all good until you factor in the 0 public transport in this area (other than v expensive taxis) and I'll be walking just over 25km a day to get the kids to and from school as well as looking after a young BF baby, and as dh's workplace is too far to walk to, it's me that has to take the hit.
Re: the kids they'll also have to give up their hobbies and lots of their "fun" stuff too. None of us have thrown a strop like he has and my life is about to become extremely difficult, im just trying to get on with it but he's whining about his gaming subscriptions.

And I just read the other thread - I can see why 48 hours over 6 days became too much for him but there must be a compromise in the middle of how you deal with this

48 hours over 6 days is 8 hours/day...that's pretty normal work time.

Have you looked into benefits since the wage drop?

As much as you don't want to LTB is he able to live elsewhere so you can claim as a single parent for a short while?

Op I think I remember your last posting. And yes some people gave you the hardest time.

Yanbu. He's an actual dickhead and selfish at that. He's not a good partner, nor a good dad and certainly not a good person. I'm in awe at how calm you sound and not wanting to kick him around the garden.

He needs to stfu, he needs to sell all his consoles and stick with one (assuming he has a few) and man the fuck up and look after his family. My DH works more than 48 hours a week. Enjoys the money it brings in and ensures his family doesn't struggle.
Sending and op.

I didn’t read your previous thread - but this is horrific. You can’t live like this, you just can’t. The distances your DC have to walk each day are just plain wrong. I couldn’t forgive him for this.

There’s such a difference between downsizing your lives in a planned and controlled way for the good of his work-life balance, and this.

Thing is, OP, that you get a say in this - you're happy to stay with a man that treats you like shit, and that is your right. But what about your kids? I can't believe they have to walk 12 km a day due to their dad's utter irresponsiblity, and they don't have a voice. Just be careful because one day they may hate you as much as they will hate him.