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In thinking that mil could have been a bit nicer

29 replies

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 20:34

Ok, dd (5) asked me yesterday if nanny would make her some biscuits, the kind that she made at Christmas so I said we could call her up later and ask her. We call later and nanny isn't in so we ask grandad to pass the message on. Mil just called and speaks to dh. Dh asks if his dad told her about dd calling and the biscuits. Mil laughs and asks if dh told her she'll have to wait until Christmas. Erm am I missing something here? They are visiting on sunday and although I didn't expect her to make them for then (would have been nice but didn't expect it) I thought she might have said she'd make them for the next time we saw them. This is the woman that LOVES baking and makes all food from scratch, bakes bread now and again, cakes, etc but she won't make her grand daughter some biscuits

I'll make some with dd and we do bake but these are biscuits that mil makes every year and I think is an Austrian or German recipe (mil is austrian and german). Dd loves these biscuits and so does ds1, not even an offer to make different sorts either if those bisctuits were seen as just special Christmas ones. can't see why she couldn't make a few biscuits

So am I being unreasonable in thinking she could have made dd the biscuits?

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Saturn74 · 04/05/2007 20:36

Maybe MIL was joking and will arrive with a tin full of biscuits on Sunday?

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 20:37

Very much doubt it, she says what she means all the time.

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WigWamBam · 04/05/2007 20:38

I'd assume she was joking as well.

Save your annoyance until you know for sure that she wasn't!

chilledmama · 04/05/2007 20:39

Maybe she doesn't realise that you are happy for DD to have them...you could ask her yourself

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 20:41

Seriously she wasn't joking, she meant it. They bring sweets for the dc's so they know we don't mind them bringing treats and she knows we all love the biscuits!! Can I be honest and say I'm a bit disappointed that she said no because I love them so much myself lol. I think I'll ask her myself on Sunday and get dd to as well

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edam · 04/05/2007 20:43

I suspect she meant it too, given she's Austrian/German ie very direct. Shame.

FourJays · 04/05/2007 20:43

I'd aske her for the recipe so you and dd can make them and let her know that dd wants to make more before Xmas as she loves them so much.

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littlelemon · 04/05/2007 20:49

They're not 'lebkuchen' are they?
I think that they are a traditional christmas biscuit...it's still a bit rigid of her if she won't bake them out of season though.

stleger · 04/05/2007 21:07

Mince pie anyone?

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 21:24

Nope not lebkuchen, I've made them before. I make my own mince pies . Would it be rude to ask for the recipe?

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gigglinggoblin · 04/05/2007 21:29

vanilla kipferls? little crescent biscuits. my friends granny is austrian and makes these at xmas. she found the recipe on google but they looked a bit complicated so she didnt bother making them

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 21:44

Ooh could be those, they are crescent shaped.

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JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 21:46

Lmfao dh has just walked past and read the name of those biscuits and said yeah that's the ones. Talk about having to prise information out of him. Then he said he didn't realise I wanted to know what they were called lol.

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GiantSquirrelSpotter · 04/05/2007 21:53

Yes.

In the sense that it sounds like a culture clash. If your MIL is Germanic, the christmas thing is a really special thing - if they are just christmas biscuits, for her they're infused with the specialness of christmas.

I personally think all this "this is just an easter/ christmas/ thanksgiving recipe" is a load of bollocks, but for some people it's part of what makes life special (I have a friend who makes pumpkin pie every halloween and only then - she'd be horrified at the thought of making it at any other time - she's American and for her, it conjures up all her memories of trick or treating, sweets, yadayada. Suggesting she makes it next week would be a sort of insult, honestly, it would be like we hadn't appreciated the sheer specialness of it and were a total bunch of philistine. I would never be invited again - just as well, because to be frank I'm not that keen on pumpkin pie, it's pretty 'orrible.)

Anyway, that's what I think - she's got a christmas hang-up.

gigglinggoblin · 04/05/2007 21:55

men! they are all the same. forgot to say earlier i do agree withyou btw. enjoy baking

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 22:24

Giantsquirrel - she's lived here since she was 19/20, not that that would make her any less her own culture but just seems odd she won't make those biscuits after Christmas.

Off to look up that recipe now

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JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 22:28

Well I've found the recipe now so I can make my own

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GiantSquirrelSpotter · 04/05/2007 22:32

You do realise that she'll see that as a usurping of her position

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 04/05/2007 22:32

Don't tell her

JodieG1 · 04/05/2007 22:45

Well she had her chance

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JodieG1 · 05/05/2007 15:39

Well I've just made a batch and can I say yummmyy They taste really nice. Just waiting for them to cool so I can get the next lot in the oven

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JodieG1 · 05/05/2007 15:40

Oh and ds1 loves them Dd is at a party so I'll have to see what she thinks when she's back.

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gigglinggoblin · 05/05/2007 17:17

will email you my address so you can bring round my share

kimi · 05/05/2007 18:09

Are you going to serve them to your MIL for tea on Sunday???
I would.

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