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Husband watching 18 certificate films in front of kids

40 replies

Twoweekcruise · 03/03/2018 17:15

I can't get through to my stupid husband and we have just had a massive row over this.
He's been watching a film on Netflix with our 10 year old DD in the room with him (she was drawing and I was doing bits in the kitchen).
Half way in to the film I walk into the room to find him sitting there glued to the screen watching an 18 certificate film. The film was really quite violent and DD was sitting there watching too. I blew my top telling DH how irresponsible he was to allow DD to watch such a film. His response was that there are other rooms in the house and she was free to go in the other living room or in her bedroom.
He did this last week and I was pissed off with him, now I'm livid. I can't get through to him that he shouldn't be watching violent or any 15/18 certificate films whilst DD is in the room.
He just doesn't understand why I'm so angry!
AIBU here?

OP posts:
Moo678 · 03/03/2018 17:18

No YANBU we never watch adult stuff unless the kids are in bed. Anything they have seen that is above PG has been after family discussion (Harry Potter). No way my kids would be allowed to watch a random 18 (they are 6 and 8)

CuriousMama · 03/03/2018 17:19

YANBU he's stupid

ClaryFray · 03/03/2018 17:23

Yanbu - but short of getting rid of him if he still isn't listening after the first time I don't know what to suggest.

Runlovingmummy81 · 03/03/2018 17:25

Nope. He's an idiot. I had similar recently with my ex husband. He was allowing them to play gta on the ps3!

couchparsnip · 03/03/2018 17:27

Of course YANBU. Have you tried googling psychological damage of watching violence too young. If he doesn't believe you he might believe science.

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Twoweekcruise · 03/03/2018 17:39

He's in a strop now because I made him turn it off! His brother has allowed his 8 year old play GTA from the age of 3 and she has major violent tantrums and swears like a trooper! Certainly not something I want for my dc! I didn't let 12 year old DD have an Xbox until a year or two ago.

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Pumpkintopf · 03/03/2018 17:41

Of course yanbu. Your husband is an arse.

falsepriest · 03/03/2018 17:41

Hmmmm Confused

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 03/03/2018 17:42

Stupidity is a family trait, then? 3 year old playing GTA... Sad

GertrudeCB · 03/03/2018 17:44

He is an idiot.

Runlovingmummy81 · 03/03/2018 17:45

Mine are 5 and 6....its awful. I spoke to the head teacher in the end as the youngest had brought it in at school. She called him in and had words. They've not been on it since.

Dragongirl10 · 03/03/2018 17:47

YANBU.....how can he be such an irresponsible father?

He can watch 18+ films are in Dcs are in bed.

Is he like this in other ways op?

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 03/03/2018 17:48

Tell you DH that when your dd mentions watching the film at school, and an adult hears her, they will have no choice but to fill in a note of concern. It's a child protection issue.

blackheartsgirl · 03/03/2018 17:49

Yanbu! He's an idiot. My dp is a dense fucker but even he isn't soft enough to watch 18 films in front of his dds. Is it a safe guarding issue?

geekone · 03/03/2018 17:50

Change the Netflix password

geekone · 03/03/2018 17:51

Oh and set it so it asks for a password every time. Or log off ever time.

RedRedDogsBeg · 03/03/2018 17:52

He's a dick!

soapboxqueen · 03/03/2018 17:52

Yanbu. It's totally inappropriate. Claiming that your dd can take herself off somewhere else is expecting her to parent herself. He needs to behave like an adult.

milliemolliemou · 03/03/2018 17:55

Tell him to watch his violent films in the bedroom or on his phone. Until your DD is in bed, the family sitting room is the family sitting room. Films are age rated for a reason. A lot of violent films also contain sex scenes which are certainly not appropriate - and a lot of them are misogynistic. Not great for a 10 year old girl.

Elementtree · 03/03/2018 17:55

Have you tried googling psychological damage of watching violence too young. If he doesn't believe you he might believe science

A lot of the "research" that you have to trawl through on media effects and violence on the internet is built on moral panic and wooly science.

That's not to say it isn't inappropriate but the link between watching violence and psychological effects is not uncontested.

NorthernKnickers · 03/03/2018 17:56

I'm stunned!! Your DH is beyond irresponsible...and behaving like a mardy-arsed baby to boot! How on earth do you put up with this?

Elementtree · 03/03/2018 17:57

It probably has uncontested swearing effects though.

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Twoweekcruise · 03/03/2018 17:58

Just couldn't get through to him. He's admitted that he was wrong to have watched it with her there but still thinks I went ott over it!
He normally a kind, gentle, lovely DH and dad but sometimes just doesn't think 🙄

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NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 03/03/2018 18:00

I was coming on to mention the safeguarding potential if she mentions it at school but I see it's already been pointed out.
Your husband is a knob.

UtterlyRainbowed · 03/03/2018 18:01

We recently attended the party of a child (5) who had an 'It' cake complete with Pennywise. He also received a 'Saw' film he hasn't seen yet for his birthday. I didn't realise that the cake would be so extreme otherwise my child wouldn't go. I don't watch horror films and DP loves them but wouldn't dream of having them on around the kids