To get weepy at others birth announcements?

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Very selfishly, still wanting another DC even though I have two very lovely DC already- ages 7 &4.

Got weepy this morning seeing a video birth announcement on Instagram, and harbouring quite jealous feelings when I see others going on to have three (I try not to let it show of course).

I'm 43 this year, and it just isn't happening.

Go on, tell me IBU

No I do too, birth announcement videos are lovely.

and my mum had a baby 4 years ago at 45. Plenty of time

I have none and it probably won’t happen for me and I’ve just wept at possibly the same video as you, so no, you’re not BU xx

YANBU
I cried when my flatmates child was born
I cried when my nephew was born
I cried when a school friend announced they had given birth after having had a still birth 2 years prior (and having kept pregnancy secret)

I’m late 20s

It must be hard, however I think you are being slightly unreasonable. You have two children. Think about what it's like for people who have none.

Bizarrely I spend my working life working with couples who have largely been unable to conceive. I know I'm lucky- we struggled to have DC2 after a miscarriage. Still can't shake it though.

liverbird so she's not allowed to feel emotional because she already had children? why is it whenever babies are mentioned people are so quick to chime in with the "think of those that don't have any" infertility is awful but you can't expect people to lack all emotion surrounding babies/pregnancy just because they've already been blessed with children.

I cry at every single episode of call the midwife - without fail.

So birth announcements also induce a tear or 2.

I have kids, and remember the days they were born like it was yesterday.

There is just something so so special about new life. YANBU op

I get a bit teary but in a nice way - particularly if it’s someone I know who has had trouble conceiving or who has lost a baby, there’s a lot of relief that all is well.
There’s also a bit of nostalgia - we are not having any more children but it makes me remember, rather than want to do it over again.

LiverBird That isn’t fair. Infertility is awful, trust me when I say that I know that, but why does my heartache at not having a child trump someone else’s? It doesn’t. It isn’t a competition

You feel what you feel. Ypu don't have any control over it. However if a childless women came on and said. You've got 2 healthy children. Be happy with it, some poor folk don't even get the chance to have one, I'd get where she was coming from.

Ted, That must have been a shock for your mum., mind you. I bet she's absolutely thrilled to bits with him/her now.

I’ve had the same conversation this week. Birth in the family and im utterly, utterly delighted, but alongside that is jealousy-grief-denial (?) that my baby making days are done. I have 2 DS, still toddlers, and some days it’s so intense I (nearly) regret ever having them. But a birth announcement can make my heart ache and I could weep, not just from happiness, but also for the 3rd baby I’ll not be having.

I am so incredibly lucky to have my 2. Infertility is hateful, and I’ll never take my babies for granted.

Thanks everyone. Glad I'm not the only one...

Longing for a baby is perfectly normal. It is biological. Your logical head tells you you are lucky to have two. Your heart and soul are sad you might not have another. allow yourself a little grief and be kind to yourself. Then try and manage your responses to other peoples news and try and share a little of their happiness. I dont mean bottle it, just manage it

Was it the Fletchers announcement? I'm 6 years into secondary infertility and that's sent me down today

I had this. I saw the Fletchers announcement and as it happens a few friends of mine are pregnant and I just seem to be seeing babies everywhere. I have a DD who is 2 but she was prem and it was a difficult time, I also have health problems and it was v risky having DD. I would love her to have a sibling and have spent the day feeling rubbish about it. You're not alone OP.

The Fletchers announcement was ridiculously self indulgent.

Who are the Fletchers

YANBU - I don't have any children yet and every announcement makes me feel rubbish. It's not that I'm not happy for friends.

YANBU. I can understand. Our last DC died shortly after birth but DH says he doesn’t want to try again. I’m hoping he changes his mind but increasingly becoming resigned to it. I doubt the wistful feelings of birth announcements will ever go tbh.

I struggled with infertility for years and so totally get that pang you feel when there is a birth announcement. Makes you feel sick/jealous/hate the world... Take comfort in the two young children you are lucky enough to already have. I expect your feelings are more broody than a longing for a child you can't conceive?

video birth announcement on Instagram

Fucking hell.

@awlook it’s Tom Fletcher from mcFly and Giovanni Fletcher who’s a chick lit writer (and think now a mummy blogger type).

I like the Fletchers tbh, if that’s what they want to do to announce it then it’s no big deal is it!

Thanks, Melody.