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I love my MIL.

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IlovemyMIL · 03/03/2018 11:36

There's a tonne of threads on here bashing MILs (often quite rightly so) but I just wanted to share a positive MIL (well more PIL) story.

Pil visited from overseas last weekend. DD (3) caught chicken pox and had to stay off nursery this week. It would have been really difficult for DH and I to organise childcare between ourselves as we both work FT but we would have scraped through... just. We've recently moved to a new city and started new jobs. We don't know anyone so don't have any family or friend support network.

PIL immediately offered to stay until Thursday. They looked after DD during the day, got up with her (literally got to her room before we did!), cleaned the house, cooked dinner, went shopping etc and FIL fixed lots of things around the house. MIL has cleaned and organised messy kitchen drawers from when we moved in (I know most people find that annoying but honestly I was glad of the bloody help). She also did laundry and some bedtimes.

They've been absolutely bloody wonderful even when they couldn't fly home on Thursday because of the snow and it's still touch and go if they can fly back on Monday. It's a cultural thing but they like to be really busy and have literally thrown themselves to do things and told us to enjoy family time without stress.

Today I'm feeling the heart warming fuzziness of just how awesome they've been this week and just how much we really needed the support. I've told them but they're too bloody modest to take the compliment. We have got some thank you gifts but I don't think they do it justice.

Feel free to add to the MIL/PIL love.

OP posts:

OhHolyJesus · 03/03/2018 11:39

I love my PIL too - they have the odd comment which I try to rise above but in the whole they are fantastic and I feel very lucky as it could have gone so differently!

YellowFlower201 · 03/03/2018 11:58

I really like my MIL. Fil is rather odd but she's very nice.

Theresasmayshoes11 · 03/03/2018 12:00

Ah that’s nice op. My mil was fantastic and sadly died far too early. Fil was great too.

I try to be a good mil and get on very well with my dils snd dds partners

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 03/03/2018 12:01

I love both. They're very kind, generous, loving, non-judgemental and super non-intrusive.

falsepriest · 03/03/2018 12:02

My in-laws are fantastic. Included in their family from day one. It’s my parents I worry about for my DP’s sake

Jaygee61 · 03/03/2018 12:08

I loved my ILs even though they could be quite difficult people. I miss them now they are gone.

GiraffeCat · 03/03/2018 12:44

I do love my in-laws, even though at times they can be difficult. FIL in particular really. But they have been really helpful to us in the past, and I love how much they love DS and how much he loves them - they've started having him occasionally for a few hours on a weekend so we can get stuff done, and it's been really great. I'm hoping as time goes on our relationship will improve, as it has been.
Also I really is adorable when DS squeals in excitement to see them, he does love spending time with them.

Fluffyears · 03/03/2018 12:47

Right now i’moutside Mil’s house seething as I am having to block the road due to the snow and she’s fancying about, get yourvshoes on, your coat and your bag and fucking move you silly woman. She’s an idiot. I’m blocking the road ffs!!!!!

PoorYorick · 03/03/2018 13:01

My MIL is the sweetest, loveliest person and so is my FIL.

willisurvive3under2 · 03/03/2018 13:11

My in laws are the best. I feel very lucky. Helpful but not intrusive, always commenting positively on my parenting, DS, or house etc. My MIL has another DIL who doesn't like her at all so I often wonder if she's overcompensating with me, i.e. being super nice to make sure the same doesn't happen. I'll never know but she seems super genuine and she has been from day 1.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 03/03/2018 14:10

That's lovely that you're so appreciative OP. They sound wonderful. It's funny because I've read so many threads on here that are so similar to how your PILs have behaved but the DIL found them overbearing, interfering and having no boundaries. Funny old world

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 03/03/2018 14:14

What are you on about fluffy?

RedLemonade · 03/03/2018 14:21

I love my MIL. She loves a giggle and has a very generous pour with white wine

coffeeforone · 03/03/2018 14:23

I hate to say it because I love my parents to bits but my in laws win hands down when it comes to spending extended time with them. They live overseas and we’ll happily invite them to stay with us for a month or longer - they couldn’t be any more helpful but in a very relaxed way. My parents on the other hand are great for a short period but I can barely tolerate a full weekend with them!

strawberrybubblegum · 03/03/2018 16:44

I love my ILs too. They are just the same as yours OP: wonderful and more helpful than I could possibly expect, as well as great company. I sometimes worry that they are giving too much of themselves (in time and effort rather than financially) and that we are taking advantage. It does help us enormously though! I often tell them how much I appreciate their help.

The very best thing of all is their relationship with DD. DD absolutely adores them both, but especially her grandmother. And that is a direct result of all the love and effort that MIL has put into the relationship with DD (on top of all the help she gives us).

I love them, they are utterly fab.

Flobalob · 03/03/2018 16:50

Yep! I'm pretty lucky with my in-laws too. Non offensive and adore our children, spoiling them rotten. Show alot of interest in the kids and are nice people.

Crunchymum · 03/03/2018 16:54

My MIL is wonderful.

Patient, kind, non interfering but always in hand to offer advice if asked.

This week she came and collected my school age child, took my 3yo for the day and delivered them both home to me in the evening, all so I didn't have to take the newborn out in the snow. That is just a tiny snippet of how kind and thoughtful she is.

I am always happy to sit down for a cuppa or a glass of red with this woman. She is a very good egg.

Tink2007 · 03/03/2018 16:55

They sound amazing 😍

Worldsworstcook · 03/03/2018 16:56

I'll swap yours for mine. Give you 3 days tops.

I'm jealous!!

Londonlivin · 03/03/2018 17:01

How lovely. I would write to them when they return home telling them how much you appreciate and love them. I think thank you letters are underrated. Hope your child is over the worst of the pox.

bricksareheavy · 03/03/2018 17:02

My MIL doesn’t speak any English and lives the other side of the world, so we get on great 😂
She’s always sending me pictures of flowers and seems like a really sweet lady so it’s all good :)

Pittcuecothecookbook · 03/03/2018 17:05

I genuinely have the best parents in law. I can't even begin to list the great stuff they've done for us...

GemmaB78 · 03/03/2018 17:07

Mine are great too. Kind, supportive and have welcomed me to the family from day one. They live overseas and we are off to see them for a week over Easter - can't wait! My FIL is over generous with the wine/beer bottle and they always stock up on my favourite prior to our visit.

I think my husband has great ILs too. No problems for either of us. We are very lucky!

ConstantlyCold · 03/03/2018 17:11

I love my PIL too. I mean they are both bat shit crazy.
But they would do anything for their grandkids, dh and me. We really rely on them and they are truely lovely people.

Littlelambpeep · 03/03/2018 17:16

Mine is a wonderful old school good grandma/ mil. So positive and hardworking and cheerful and kind.

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