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Original poster

It's alright for you as you don't work.

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 10:32

So I have 3dds all school aged. I do have a couple of very small jobs and I am studying.
Today I mistakenly posted on Facebook that we were having a duvet day as both Primary and Secondary schools are shut.
So I have just had this response on post from dsil. I would slmostand understand her frustration if the closure impacted on her but she doesn't even work Fridays.
Sony to think this is just another opportunity to have a pop as I work fewer hours than her. Although clearly she doesn't see either of my jobs as work as I have been called a lady of leisure and been told that as youngest has started school so will have loads of time to get housework done.
The biggest irony us that I should actually been working today but thankfully boss has extended deadline.

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 10:33

Sorry garbled bits.

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SciFiLover · 02/03/2018 10:34

Tell her off!

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 10:34

Aibu changed to sony.

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DumbledoresSocks · 02/03/2018 10:34

Surely you'd still have to be home today as both your children are off? So what's her problem? She sounds very bitter. Enjoy your duvet day!

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 10:35

I have just replied that actually I should be working today.

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iammargesimpson · 02/03/2018 10:35

Does she know you have two jobs and study part time as well as having 3 dc? If she does know then she's just being a bitch and is clearly jealous, ignore her. If she is unaware then tell her. everyone deserves a duvet day now and then, no better time than when the country is on lockdown!!

HotCrossBunFight · 02/03/2018 10:36

Id just say, yes we are having such a lovely day!

honeylulu · 02/03/2018 10:39

I'd reply saying "I was meant to be working today but have managed to reorganise, phew. I thought you didn't work on Fridays anyway, you nutter haha!"

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 10:40

It is not the first time she said it when school closed the last time she said similar. I think she thinks I do bugger all and take advantage of her dbro.
Yet I think it balances out overall and more importantly me and dh are happy.

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 10:42

One is self employment wfh so I don't think she sees it as work. The other is new so she may not know about it tbf.
She knows about studying but may judt see if as a hobby not work.

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BrazzleDazzleDay · 02/03/2018 10:46

She would love me then, myself and 3 out of 4 dc have been in our jammies since after school on tues. Laptops not been taken out the cupboard to study since then either.

SciFiLover · 02/03/2018 10:46

It's alright for you, you don't work Fridays - I DO!

MiniEggMeister · 02/03/2018 10:46

Rub it in some more Grin

MissionItsPossible · 02/03/2018 10:57

"Does your boss know you use Facebook at work"? Hmm So then if she replies and says I'm not at work you can call her a hypocrite Grin

CaMePlaitPas · 02/03/2018 10:58

How you spend your time is none of her bloody business - CF!

Bambamber · 02/03/2018 11:01

Ask her if shes been outside in the bitter winds too much as it appears to be rubbing off on her

APontypandyPioneer · 02/03/2018 11:06

Urgh. Exactly why I loathe v
Block the

APontypandyPioneer · 02/03/2018 11:07

Posted too soon. Meant to say, exactly why I loathe SM. Block her I couldn't be arsed with the attitude.

MichaelBendfaster · 02/03/2018 11:09

Block her. She can fuck off.

Any more comments in RL about 'lady of leisure' or 'as youngest has started school so will have loads of time to get housework done.', tell her to mind her own.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 02/03/2018 11:10

Block her, the rude cow.

Glumglowworm · 02/03/2018 11:15

If your primary aged DC are off school then someone needs to be home with them. So you’d be having a duvet day today regardless of whether you work full time, part time or not at all.

I get that it’s annoying for working people (including me) to potentially lose a days pay because they can’t get to work or they could but can’t go because the schools are shut. I guess she’s stressed about that? But that’s nothing to do with you, so there’s no reason to make snarky comments to you!

Sarahh2014 · 02/03/2018 11:20

It is definitely jealousy.I had the same problem with a good friend.she works ft opposite shifts to husband so they don't see each other in week and have 3 ds, I'm a sahm and my dh works 8 til 4.She was making comments and tagging me in job openings I just laughed along and pretended didn't bother me

Eryri1981 · 02/03/2018 11:24

I went part time before even having my dd. Working two "days" a week. Had sarcastic comments about my "early retirement" (I'm in my 30s). The people making these comments where clearly incapable of seeing that the two "days" I worked were in fact 12 hour shifts that frequently finished late, so I was actually averaging 26 hours a week... Part-time but hardly retired!!!

I have made compromises to be able to go part-time, smaller house, old car, less lavish holidays etc. People forget this bit. Some people are just jealous and should learn to mind their own business.

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 11:32

It would appear that she has swapped days and now has Mondays off.
I think I will be more careful with my audience for posts in future.

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Moonandstars84 · 02/03/2018 11:36

Also I think we both need to not assume so much. At least I didn't say that I thought you didn't work Fridays.

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