It's alright for you as you don't work.

[Moonandstars84]

So I have 3dds all school aged. I do have a couple of very small jobs and I am studying.
Today I mistakenly posted on Facebook that we were having a duvet day as both Primary and Secondary schools are shut.
So I have just had this response on post from dsil. I would slmostand understand her frustration if the closure impacted on her but she doesn't even work Fridays.
Sony to think this is just another opportunity to have a pop as I work fewer hours than her. Although clearly she doesn't see either of my jobs as work as I have been called a lady of leisure and been told that as youngest has started school so will have loads of time to get housework done.
The biggest irony us that I should actually been working today but thankfully boss has extended deadline.

If you don't like your SIL and she makes snipey comments on your life then don't have her son your FB or alternate your settings for what she can see when you post.

We always used to get on really well but since youngest started school her attitude towards me seems to have changed.
Custom settings is the way forward I feel.

Why do you care?

I don't give a shit what people think.
I work 20 hours a week and my youngest is 17.

I can be seen going to the gym, pottering in the garden, walking through the woods taking photographs.

Works just fine for me.

There's a very good chance someone is going to be duvet day posts. They're not to be celebrated tbh.

I think if you make her an acquaintance, you won't see each others posts, but it won't look like you have unfriended her.

Outside of FB, I would get DH to start talking about how hard you work and how proud he is that you juggle study with two jobs and the DC. SIL sounds like a silly jealous bitch.

If she says again that you don't work I would act concerned about her memory loss.

Why are duvet days not to be celebrated Trailed? It's a very rare occasion when most of us get the chance to have an unscheduled day off and it's too cold to be outside for long so really the only option is to throw more turf on the fire, download a movie and crack open the orchards thieves (not all at 12noon I admit) but then again....

Why are you defending it? Why does it bother you if she thinks you "work" less than her?

I had it when I went part time after having Ds1, lots of half a week comments from the full timers, I just repeated what my manager had said, which was, well if any of you want to reduce your hours and pay down to part time X's door is open.

When I became a SAHM partly due to health reasons again I had the whole what do you do all day? questions. I just own it. I don't claim any benefits, I have money I just don't work to earn it and Dh actually appreciates coming home to no housework responsibilities.

It works for us. I don't need a badge to tell people I volunteer for stuff to justify my being at home. I don't apologise for my life choices and I don't judge anyone else's choices either.

My reply would have been, yes, it's great and I get to enjoy a lovely snuggly duvet day.

Can you explain that trailed I don't know what you mean?

Why wouldn't someone snuggled up on their sofa with their DC, having an unexpected day off work through completely unavoidable reasons be sitting back and thinking "Oh, this is a nice change."

It's not like it happens often is it?

I suppose that I feel a bit prestbytarianly that it's good to be active! But I can see I'm wrong and if ever a duvet day is justified it's when snowed in!