To be sceptical about someone who repeatedly refers to themselves as ‘an empath’

[lottieandmia22]

I know some people are empaths. But to say it repeatedly just sounds a bit self absorbed. Ie, ‘people are so draining to be around because I’m an empath and I can experience all their feelings’ ‘I’m a special snowflake’ basically 😂

After hearing it all the time it gets annoying.

I'm more likely to tell people I am an anti-empath! Can I have sympathy for that?

No, but I can empathise.

I think you're boasting about your amazing empathy skills now. If you were truly empathetic then you would have more compassion!

MIL shared something on Facebook earlier saying she was part empath, part witch. I don't know how well the empath part is currently functioning, considering her son (my DH) contacted her to say he's been feeling very down about family stuff and could he speak to her and she ignored him.

To me, that pretty much sums up people who go on about how deeply empathic they are.

I think you're boasting about your amazing empathy skills now. If you were truly empathetic then you would have more compassion!

Nope. As a fellow anti-empath, I'm not compassionate, but you may be the only person I can empathise with :-)

Yeah I don't really get it either. I've noticed these people are often very quick to accuse other people of being 'narcs' as well.

If anyone is repeatedly calling themselves an 'empath' what you have there is not a so-called 'empath' but a self-aggrandising, smug, supercilious twat.

Oh god yes this person is constantly diagnosing other people with NPD or BPD.

Surely the phrase should be 'a pretentious empath'. Don't worry, the next bandwagon will be along soon for the terminally attention seeking to jump aboard.

she was part empath, part witch
I've noticed these people
I've met people who claim this

Just to be clear, is everyone actually meeting people who claim to sense people's feelings like a Jedi? Or is it just people who talk crap and speak about themselves like they are special?

If the former, what do these people do when you point and laugh at them?

I know some people are empaths

No they aren't. It's not a thing. It's a wanky thing people say about themselves, usually people who are staggeringly lacking in any real empathy.

It sounds irritating... To put it mildly!

@lottiemaria22 I alway think these people sound more like narcissists than they people they're accusing tbh.

Agree the only person I know who regularly proclaims that she is "an empath" has zero emotional intelligence and is very unreliable and flakey. If you were really in tune with other people you wouldn't annoy them. Sometimes sympathy is more useful than empathy. Boundaries and objectivity have their uses too

You know done people are empathy? Really?
Isn't empath just a 21st century way of saying medium or spiritualist ie a charlatan

Yes I have a whole other thread along these lines.

My particular self proclaimed empath has bought an energy belt (ie a backpack toted on amazon to have been blessed by a shaman) to protect themselves from other people’s energy, and believes that people are drawn like moths to their “bright light”

Just commenting that I've never heard of this before ..... So i cannot empathise..

Every single self proclaimed 'empath' and ESPECIALLY the ones who announce it like some sort of terrible burden ('Oh, it's so TERRIBLE being an empath because I feel EVERYTHING and the world is just so PAINFUL for me') that I have ever met has actually been remarkably and indeed astonishingly un-empathetic, insensitive, self serving, selfish and manipulative.

Oh and also a massive tit.

believes that people are drawn like moths to their “bright light”

Next time you meet them, could you run round and round them flapping madly before diving in and headbutting them?

Anti-empaths united.

It's a bit like my mum who identifies herself as someone who hates injustice and yet her own behaviour is often erratic and most unfair to other people.

'My particular self proclaimed empath has bought an energy belt (ie a backpack toted on amazon to have been blessed by a shaman) to protect themselves from other people’s energy, and believes that people are drawn like moths to their “bright light”'

Oh this sent me into a fit of giggles 😂😂😂 and sounds exactly the sort of thing that 'my empath' would do. Hilarious. Thank you for making me laugh today. Can I have a link to your thread Display?

It's a shame it seem to be a female thing, like being "sensitive" being empathetic and a good listener are traits people expect more from women than men and some women take it to extremes thinking more is better

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Shaman spray - this is honestly hilarious.

What I want to know is how do these people know they are what they propose to be. I think you've got to be pretty self absorbed to even act like this tbh.

I cannot take the second hand embarrassment...make it stop... I do miss watching Charmed though.

Maybe what these people need is a load of moth balls and then they can deflect all of us proletariat moths without even trying. They'll have way more time to polish their shiny gold halos 🤣 and it's probably cheaper than a shaman energy belt!

Simple, next time she says it, reply " cool, I am a psychopath." Then start taking about eating your accountants liver with some fava beans and a nice Chianti. See if her shamanic accessories protect her from that 'energy'!