To worry that it's cheeky to invite ourselves to stay?

[Heycrazyloulou]

I have planned a day out at a theme park over the holidays for DC. We would need accommodation for two nights as we live so far away. My sister lives within a 30 minute drive away from this place. Would it be cheeky to invite ourselves to stay with her?

OP - We have a good relationship but don't get to see her that often so wouldn't want to think we were only using her and visiting purely for the accommodation.
That is what you'd be doing though wouldn't it?? If she lived an hour or 90 minutes from the theme park you wouldn't consider staying with her, right?
At least start the conversation with her and not us but don't be surprised if she thinks you are showing traits of being a CF.

If any friends or members of my family, even distant relatives, would like to stay with me for any reason, they will all be welcome and I would be really pleased to see them. There's no way that I would want anything in return for dinner, b&b, although knowing my friends and family, they would probably buy me a Thank You of some sort. And then we would argue!
This would be exactly the same if I / we went to stay with my friends or family. I have even stayed in my siblings' houses when they were away on holiday, as they all live in quite far away from me and near lovely areas to explore. My DB has many visitors every year, all wanting to explore the area. He welcomes everyone happily and very hospitably.
As other PPs have said though, it's all down to the relationship you have with your sister. I hope that it all works out well and you have a great time.

So it reads like you’re willing to go all that way for something you want (attraction) but not to actually see her

Agree.

Not at all, she is your sister, it however depends on your relationship, if you know she will be fine, and is easy going, yes, if she is quite funny, then no.

Ok, if you have a good relationship, ask her! The worse she can say is no.

we are planning to go to Alton Towers on April 13th-can we doss at yours for two nights?

That’s exactly how it would go in our family and the recipient would either say 'yes that’s great, looking forward to seeing you'. or 'Sorry but those dates wouldn’t work because XXX’. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It wouldn’t be a problem at all.

The only thing that I might do is make it clear when you would expect to arrive and and what you plan to do for food. My favorite guests offer to bring their own bedding, at least for the kids. I never take them up on their offer for the adults but I like it if visiting kids bring their own sleeping bags.

I love it when relatives use us for accommodation. I like that they go out all day and return in the evening with stories of their day. It’s much nicer than having to host them the whole time.

wouldn't want to think we were only using her and visiting purely for the accommodation

But, that's exactly what you're doing, isn't it? I don't have a problem with that, but please be honest about it

My goodness, I am shocked at the mentality of Mumsnet at times, she is close to her sister, so she can ask, her sister is an adult, and can say no if its not suitable. Its only two nights fgs, not two weeks!

As many others have said, it totally depends on the relationship you've got with your sister. I wouldn't have an issue with asking my brother for instance, but we speak weekly and see each other at least once a month.

Also, I wouldn't "invite yourself". I'd just let her know you're going and ask if you could stay. I'd also say it would be nice to go all together one of the days and cook dinner one of the nights too.

Until finding MN it would never have occurred to me that it would be a problem. This place has been a real eye opener.

You’re not alone.

Nobody in my family would blink an eye at this. Same for my friends’ families.

Ask her!

Ask??