To be annoyed with DS teachers

[ExhaustedAndHormonal]

So parents eve was last night. Due to being so close to my due date and being pretty unwell the last few weeks. With hospital stays etc . His head of year suggested said she would get each teacher to email me my sons progress. ( she offered this a few weeks ago) if i knew it was a quick in and out I could of probably made it. However due to the online appointment slot times first appointment was 4.20 last 7.15..so three hours couped up, fat and in a lot of discomfort wasn't good. So was glad the head of year offered the email service

He has 13 teachers, I've heard from 3. Despite chasing it twice. And both times. She reassured me that they would email me. Again still no emails from the remaining people

However I. Will say my son is not perfect and often gets himself in avoidable situations. And results in a detention or whatever.
Each time they call me and we work out a plan together

However the more I think about it. The more. I get wound up that if he's misbehaving they call or email me in a flash..( even something silly and things I feel the sch should be able u I easily deal with),
When a teacher called last week to say he was being a 'clown' I did make a comment of how it was very interesting how she could call me for that and not regarding parents eve..she was stumped and then said ' she's useless at checking her emails' to which I replied.. Well that's hardly good enough as of DS didn't check his ( homework is set via email) that would result in a detention for no homework.. She cut the conversation short and hung up

Yet they've had now close to three weeks to email regarding his progress and haven't.
Aibu to be annoyed about this or is it just me being a hormonal moo bag.

The HOY should not be telling parents they'll get information for parents prior to parents' eve. Sorry but I don't agree with that.
Maybe the HOY should have done a round robin to staff which THEY collate and send to the parent. That's what our HOY do.

I have a parents' eve in a few weeks. The classes are still working on assessed pieces. I'll happily give feedback via a HOY or give home a call but can only do that when I actually have the information. I can't tell you how a child is doing 3 weeks before parents' eve when they've not done their assessment.

I'm with others on your tone on the phonr. You seem more interested in point scoring.

Quite often messages don't get past on at dd2s school.

Shes just replied that she HAD requested it get done BEFORE parents evening and that she would then chase it again and expect calls or email within 48hrs
So the head of year (yet again!!) is making decisioms about staff time.

Out of interest does the HOY actually teach? Just in my experience whilst most HOY (teaching and not) are fantastic, there's a certain type of non teaching HOY who make all sorts of promises to parents and commit teachers to doing stuff and are the fluffy friendly face but with zero regard for what else is actually going on in school.

I can't believe some people are saying to send an email to say you'll be in touch after PE. The head of year should have done a quick round robin, everyone adds a short update and they feed back to home.

I'm good at communicating with parents but I would be pissed off if that was a HOY in my school.

well what else is the OP supposed to do?

Send her partner to parent's evening to liaise with the teacher. She may be pregnant, but the partner is not, and he could attend. Or ask for the teacher to call at some point after the parent teacher night to have a conversation.

You were rude to the teacher and it sounds like your son is a long-term pain in the arse. I suspect the teachers will get round to it. It should only take a few minutes to write a paragraph.

I would say that "being useless at checking emails" isn't good enough. We have 24 hours (during term time and the working week) to reply to parent or child emails, even if it's to say you'll get back to them by xx date.