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Moaning men! Just a rant really

37 replies

melclaire1111 · 26/02/2018 16:32

Do all men just walk into a house and moan? DH has come in from work after picking Dd up (I had to work from home as our boiler is broken and wait in for an engineer) and has so far moaned because

I didn't park far enough back on the drive

I haven't started dinner (he got in at 415, we don't eat til 6)

I haven't fed the rabbits

I sent Dd in an extra cardigan this morning as it was very cold, apparently this was silly as I didn't then put any extra trousers on her

I haven't done all the housework

I've been working since 740am took 30.min break to sort out the washing and put the clothes away, have some lunch and box up some toys as we're moving next week. He thinks I've done nothing all day!

Now he's in a sulk!

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Smeaton · 26/02/2018 16:36

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woodhill · 26/02/2018 16:41

Yes my dh used to be like that

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 26/02/2018 16:47

My DH is a bit like that. I have a little personal childish game where I see how long it takes for him to moan when he gets home. I earn a treat point if it's less time than the day before. Ten treat points earn me a coffee shop trip. He doesn't know 😁

Original poster
melclaire1111 · 26/02/2018 16:53

I wish I had chance to watch jezza and eat all day, it was gone 11 before I realised cbeebies was on in the background!

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DietCokeGirrrrrl · 26/02/2018 17:36

He sounds totally obnoxious. Remind him that working from home is still working and ask if he really expects you to risk your job by skiving off and doing housework instead!

Trills · 26/02/2018 17:47

That sounds tiring.

blackteasplease · 26/02/2018 19:19

Twat. My stbxh was like. That's why I'm divorcing him (among other reasons)

GummyGoddess · 26/02/2018 20:04

I don't see him popping home in his lunch hour to do chores.

Whatsupp672 · 26/02/2018 20:22

Is he in his 40’s? So many men I have come across have had enough of childcare/House/bothering to make an effort by then.

frankchickens · 26/02/2018 20:24

Do all men just walk into a house and moan?

Yes

Thurlow · 26/02/2018 20:28

Massive generalisation. No, they don't. Do all women spend their time slagging off their DH? No, they don't.

Is he always like this? What does he do around the house?

geekymommy · 26/02/2018 20:31

DH does this. Since we're American, I guess that makes it an international epidemic.

RhinoGirl · 26/02/2018 20:36

Yep. Mines just moaned at me as soon as I got in the car, culminated in him telling me we’re only together because we have DD and bills to pay.
Dickhead he is.

Callamia · 26/02/2018 20:39

No. He came home and finished off making dinner.

He doesn’t moan at the state of the house (mainly because he’s a cause of at least some of its untidiness), he just helps to get it right again.

He’s not so rare is he?

CheshireChat · 26/02/2018 20:39

DP does this sometimes, he got some vitriolic replies so he seems to have enough self preservation to zip it.

Right when you come through the door and right before bed are 'no moan times'.

PurpleDaisies · 26/02/2018 20:41

Of course all men aren’t the same. Confused

Blaablaablaa · 26/02/2018 20:51

My ex used to do this ...hence the ex! Although he also used to quiz me about what I'd eaten and how much exercise I'd done but that's a whole other story.

TheButterflyOfTheStorms · 26/02/2018 20:53

Mine comes home and gets the fuck on with things.

I wouldn't be married to someone who thought they were the manager and I was the staff.

CheshireChat · 26/02/2018 20:57

TBF, I bet most decent men don't do it all the time either, I'm only thinking of DP because he annoyed me by doing this yesterday (well, moaning constantly). Today, he'll probably either just get stuck in as usual (if need be).

MistressDeeCee · 26/02/2018 22:17

No. My whinging ex was like that though. Bore. Current OH isn't moany at all. He is the 1st man I've met in my life that doesn't tend to have whinging moments. It's refreshing. Sometimes I lurk at top of stairs when he's coming in, to see if I hear a heavy sigh or a "for fucks sake" but, nope. OP please remind your DH that he doesn't get to be the boss of you just because you are married.

user764329056 · 26/02/2018 22:19

I couldn’t cope with that, how can he not appreciate what you’re doing? It’s teamwork

Nousernameforme · 26/02/2018 22:33

He moans about his day we sit and have a coffee and he spews out all the shit he has had to deal with. Asks about mine briefly then goes on his computer till dinner. He doesn't moan about me or the house being messy. But is very wrapped up in work stress

Shizzlestix · 26/02/2018 22:40

Unless he trips over deaf half blind dog as he comes in, no, there’s no moaning. I’m more likely to come in and off load when he asks how my day was. He’s probably making the tea. Mine’s fabulous.

ShortandAnnoying · 26/02/2018 22:42

I think you need to stand up for yourself a bit. Say I've been working since 7.40 with only 30 min break to do housework and I don't appreciate your attitude.

dadshere · 26/02/2018 22:44

Loving the excess of casual sexism shown by some posters on here. My dh moans sometimes. Sometimes I do too.