Moaning men! Just a rant really

[melclaire1111]

Do all men just walk into a house and moan? DH has come in from work after picking Dd up (I had to work from home as our boiler is broken and wait in for an engineer) and has so far moaned because

I didn't park far enough back on the drive

I haven't started dinner (he got in at 415, we don't eat til 6)

I haven't fed the rabbits

I sent Dd in an extra cardigan this morning as it was very cold, apparently this was silly as I didn't then put any extra trousers on her

I haven't done all the housework

I've been working since 740am took 30.min break to sort out the washing and put the clothes away, have some lunch and box up some toys as we're moving next week. He thinks I've done nothing all day!

Now he's in a sulk!

There's a big difference between having a moan about your day and moaning at your wife for not doing all the chores and parking her car wrong etc.

From my experience this behaviour is much more a 'woman' thing than a 'man' thing.

DH is free to moan whenever he likes. I moan too.

However, if he came in and started moaning about me like that he would get told to piss off.

It's not a man or woman thing - It's an arsehole thing.

Getting at someone from the moment you walk in the door is shitty behavior for anybody to do.

Yep my DH is the same. Never lifts a finger in the house and makes lots of mess but moans at me all the time about mess or looks for things that need doing (in his opinion), then tells me loudly that they need doing. Thoroughly fucking fed up with it all tbh.

Unfortunately my dh is definitely in the likes to moan category - I'd love him to be like some of the ones that don't. Last night he moaned about everything, the gravy was too thin with dinner that I cooked. Dd wanted me to read a book and not him.

This morning it has already started, I forgot to put the oil heater on in the living room as I came straight downstairs to do his sandwiches for work so that was worthy of a moan!

Since we're American, I guess that makes it an international epidemic.

DH is Swiss(/British) so I can confirm the epidemic has reached continental Europe. To be fair to him though its usually politics he moans about, and when I say politics I mean Brexit. IDK what we would all have talked about in the last 2 years if the referendum had gone the other way

Have you tried telling him to ‘FFS shut your bloody whinging’? And telling him to make his own sandwiches?

No. Not all men do this. Just the unpleasant bullying ones. HTH

Doesn't like the gravy, he doesn't get gravy next time.

Doesn't like how you manage the heat when you're making his sandwiches, you don't get up to make them next time.

We teach people how to treat us.

Has be always been like this? How long have you been with him?

Just tell him to stfu and put the kettle on and while he's in there he might as well make his sarnie's for tomorrow.

Fortunately mine isn't a moaner, but that's the response he would get from me if he were.