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pawpatrolonrepeat · 26/02/2018 16:00

DP has his ex's initials (as if they were married) on his wrist from when they were together. We are due to be married this year and I have been hassling him to get rid of it , plus he wants it gone too.
A laser removal will cost around £400, which is money we can't really spare right now. A cover up might be tricky but a more cost effective way of hiding the initials .
AIBU to ask what is best to do ?!

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Pluckedpencil · 26/02/2018 16:02

I'd cut 400 off the wedding budget and have it gone...

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pawpatrolonrepeat · 26/02/2018 16:04

I think I may do that. Infuriating that it only cost £70 in the first place , such a blooming waste of money.

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HollyBayTree · 26/02/2018 16:04

Change your name to her intitals ?

Grin

But in all seriousness, I have been hassling him to get rid of it if you are that insecure about his past, you really should be thinking twice whether getting married is for you.

LastNightMyWifeHooveredMyHead · 26/02/2018 16:04

I said this on another thread but have a look on Groupon - there's usually loads of offers for laser removal

Thebluedog · 26/02/2018 16:05

Can’t he just wear a watch to cover it up?

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pawpatrolonrepeat · 26/02/2018 16:06

He does wear a watch but it doesn't cover it unfortunately.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 26/02/2018 16:06

DH had it hidden under a new tatoo.

MissionItsPossible · 26/02/2018 16:06

I'm sure someone more knowledge worthy can confirm or rubbish this, but I was under the impression that laser tattoo removal still leaves a faded version of the tattoo so there may be a risk that you can still see the outline of it? I think a cover up might work better.

fantasmasgoria1 · 26/02/2018 16:06

Just get a cover up! It will be much cheaper!

SundaySalon · 26/02/2018 16:16

My friend has been getting a tiny star removed off the back of her neck for about a year now. It’s still there, it’s clearly a star just a distorted and broken one, it was quite dainty and cute to begin with. She has to do it for employment so covering up wasn’t an option. I think he should just get a tattoo to cover it.

jaseyraex · 26/02/2018 16:20

Initials on the wrist doesn't sound like it would be very big. Can you really not just ignore it? If he wants it gone then I'd probably opt for a cover up, it'll be cheaper and less painful!

My dad has a massive chest piece with doves carrying a heart with my mums name across the middle. He got a black line put through the name when he remarried Grin

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 26/02/2018 16:22

This foundation is marketed as being able to cover tattoos up. Might be a cheap way to cover it for the wedding until you can save up to have it removed.

www.superdrug.com/Make-Up/Face/Foundation/L%27Oreal-Infallible-Total-Cover-Foundation-10-Porcelain/p/724046

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pawpatrolonrepeat · 26/02/2018 16:22

I could ignore it but he wants it gone too , not an ideal thing to start married life on is it?! Maybe I'm being over sensitive.

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WhyBeDennyDifferent · 26/02/2018 16:23

I’d just get a big X tattooed over it Grin

I know it’s not ideal but, is it really a big deal?

princesspeppax · 26/02/2018 16:25

My dp had a tattoo on this forearm he got stupidly at 16 which he then grew to hate and managed to get it covered quite reasonably priced around £70 (significantly less than laser removal) has he any ideas of any patterns etc he likes he could ideally get to cover it

PigletJohn · 26/02/2018 16:35

if you both really want it removed, get it removed.

RatherBeRiding · 26/02/2018 16:37

Tattoo fixers. Get it incorporated into another tattoo. Probably a lot cheaper and more effective than removal.

ShowMeTheElf · 26/02/2018 16:39

It would actually be cheaper than £400 to get your name changed by deed poll.

ShowMeTheElf · 26/02/2018 16:39

...or chop his arm off?

Iloveacurry · 26/02/2018 16:41

Get it covered up with another design?

ShowMeTheElf · 26/02/2018 16:41

or cover with this...

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SweetMoon · 26/02/2018 16:41

I don't think you're unreasonable or insecure to not want another woman's initials on your new husbands wrist. Hardly ideal is it.

The cheaper option would be a coverup tattoo, or like others have said take it from the wedding budget (his stuff of course GrinGrin) and get it gone.

ShowMeTheElf · 26/02/2018 16:42

this...

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iklboo · 26/02/2018 16:42

Gods no, not Tattoo Fixers. He'll go in with a 5cm tattoo & end up coming out like this!

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BertrandRussell · 26/02/2018 16:59

What are the initials? Maybe we can th8nk of someth8ng else they might mean?

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