To refuse to not do DH laundry

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I've been living with DH and doing his laundry for around 4 years. I've always done the laundry & housework... hoovering, dusting, dishes, cleaning the bird cage, washing the floors, cleaning bathroom & toilet, cooking, generally tidying everything. So I do everything basically. Im currently on mat leave, have been since September 17. I do everything for DD, bathing, dressing, feeding, changing, putting to bed & washing/sterilising the bottles.

I know DH works hard, on building sites as a bricklayer. His job is physically demanding so I understand he can be tired. He comes home and either sits around in the house or we go out. If none of them he will go out in the garden and do whatever he does out there. Which I would say is rather a hobby.

So back to the laundry situation, I wash his laundry and put it away. Otherwise it'll never get done. I washed his clothes a few weeks ago and put them on the bed for him to put away. The next thing I see him throwing them on the floor this really annoyed me! He doesn't appreciate anything I do. He thinks the fairies come and do all the housework and laundry. I never get a thank you.

Aibu to buy another washing basket and tell him to crack on? We are going to the shops later and I'm planning on getting another washing basket and telling him to do his own laundry.

I tried this but it drove me mad because I'd be left with dp's washing in the basket and I'd be doing quite small loads. Tbf dp does do a lot of other things around the house and is well involved with bringing up dd so I let it go. It does piss me off a bit though that his washing seems to go through the machine and back in his drawers and I never really get a thank you but as he pointed out he gets dd ready in the morning and takes her to school and makes my lunch for Work and I don't thank him every time so I think it's works both ways. I also think parenting is more your issue here than washing.

It's also really important to teach your children to do things for themselves as they become old enough.

The big mistake is to step in because they don't do it. I've heard so many times that it's far easier to do it than try and get a slacker to do it. Well let me tell you, the slackers are laughing their heads off.