6pm is ridiculous right?

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Just received an invite for a 5 years olds party. 6pm at a social club.

AIBU to assume this is an adults piss up rather than a child's party?

It does seem a bit late! I wouldn't fancy putting a kid to bed so soon after a birthday party!

Weekend?

Well it wouldn't be common but it's not ridiculous. It would be hours till bedtime if a weekend surely?

Meh, wouldn't have bothered me, but then, I was never very uptight about bedtimes etc. Presumably it's at a weekend and will be finished by 8ish?

If it's too late for your dc, just decline the invitation?

It's a little late but itsba weekend presumably?

And the social club could be because they or family members work there and got a good deal

One would hope the adults can he responsible a bar doesn't mean you have to get pissed.

I'd go provided it was easy to leave/get back

It’d be a bit late for my 5 yo DS, he’s already getting tired and crabby at that time but we’d probably manage it as a one off. Actually he went to a school disco recently 6.30-7.30 and coped better than expected. It’s not ideal though.

Sadly it's not a declinable invite. I know the kid pretty well and have babysat many times, last week was the last time. Both nights they had dropped down asleep on the floor at 6.30.

Invite says 6 until late. Knowing the kids life I do feel that nothing is ever about them but for their own party to be more for adults, in my opinion, just seems a little sad.

6 is not ridiculous.

"6 until late" definitely is! That's not a 5-year-old's party, that comes with all the implications.

I wouldn't go, couldn't stand that many cranky children or drunk parents!

Well given the extra info it certainly sounds possible then.

Given that you know them.

Seems a bit poorly thought out if her own kids zonks out by half six

I'd go of it was a set 6-7.30/8

But no not if it's going to be a late one

My dd is 6 and most of the parties this year have been soft play 'pyjama parties' 6pm - 8pm.

My 3 and 4 year old have gone to older kids/ adults parties or stayed up late when we have had parties at home and been fine. They're not doing it everynight and they can have a lie in the next morning, it will be fun.

God people will find anything to disapprove of.
Look...maybe they know someone who works there and they are having a little disco at mates rates or something...and what the hell is wrong with that?

Live a little OP....... Go crazy for one night only.

6pm in the school holidays maybe but presumably this will either be a school night when its too late for them, or a Friday/Saturday night when my child would not be in a social club. Not out of snootiness, I worked in a social club when DS was small, he was often in there, but not on a Friday/Saturday night because those are the busier nights and even if the parents of those invited were being responsible we would never shut the whole club for a private function at the weekend so there would still be drunk people in the loos/wandering around, even if they weren't actually drinking in the same room.

6 - 7.30 wouldn't necessarily be ridiculous.... wouldn't have been my first choice but I'd just assume there were reasons they couldn't have it earlier in the afternoon. However 6 'til late, does make it sound more like the parents want a night out and dc are invited as well.
I'd then use that information as to if it would suit my family, before deciding whether to go or not.

Hmm tricky...I wouldn't have too much of an issue if it was over half term or some other school holiday, but if it's over the weekend then getting them back to early nights for school might be a bit difficult, well it would be for my DC anyway! Could you go but leave at a reasonable time? That way it's not a snub.

Most of my friends kids parties are late afternoon ones that go on until midnight ish. Kids are fine, it’s a one off, well handful of times a year. Bit like New Years.
Kids birthday for a couple of hours they are centre of attention then general party.
Parents are allowed a life too you know. If your DC won’t last that long then take them for an hour and head home.

"Oh what a shame, we are out for dinner with my parents/sister/next doors dog that night, have a great time!"

Hmmm, mine were in bed at 6.30 to 7pm at six years old, but I would still have taken them to a party at 6pm if it had been the weekend. (Would have left at half 7 at the latest.) Have to say I cannot remember a party that was any later than 4.30pm though - not at that age. At eight or nine yeah, but not six years old.

It's a BIT late IMO, but not TOO late IYSWIM. (And certainly not 'ridiculous.')

Sounds weird! My DC's parties were never that late until they reached maybe 8/9 and then people started doing one or two for sleepovers etc. They were certainly never invited to an evening bash at the age of 6 - but as PPs have said, maybe that's the only option for the parents? We have occasionally taken ours to adult parties due to lack of a babysitter, from quite a young age, and it's not been a problem (weekends only). Still seems an odd choice for a kids party though....... But what the heck - go, and have fun!

I would go but leave at 7pm and say as it's bedtime for the kid(s?) I usually feel like im the only person in in the world who hates drinking around Children so good to hear I'm not! Just don't get it personally if you want to get drunk do it when your children are in bed or being looked after by a sober person.

"Hmmm, mine were in bed at 6.30 to 7pm"

Hmm, DD was nowhere near tired at that time. I struggled to get her into bed and asleep much before 8pm at that age. She just. was. not. tired. Which goes to show that all children are different. Also, what day of the week will this be?

OP, of course it is declinable. In our family we say "don't try and guilt trip us, you know it won't work"

No-one tries to guilt trip us into doing anything now

It is late especially for such an exciting event. My 6yo goes to bed at 8:30, so assuming the party is three hours long (that's how long all the parties she has been to have been, with the exception of a saint of a parent who kept them for five hours), that's a 9pm finish time and that's without having to get home, unwind and go to bed. There is no reason to do this to other parents.

I'd go but make it clear I'll only be staying for an hour as it's DC's bedtime (my DS has ADHD so routine is quite important for him). Otherwise, as you're their regular babysitter, I can imagine you'll be left supervising while the other parents get pissed. I'm virtually teetotal and this has happened to me on many an occasion when kids have been involved.