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Ex Husband and luggage

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surlycurly · 25/02/2018 17:53

I posted this elsewhere but I'm reposting here for traffic.

Basically I bought new luggage last year and my kids use it when they go on holiday with their dad. He takes them abroad several times a year and I noticed after the last trip that the luggage is ripped. Obviously it was bought to used but by us when I go away with them. I've only used it twice last year and it was perfect. AIBU to ask him to replace it? He loathes me anyway Grin

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Perendinate · 25/02/2018 17:55

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PotteringAlong · 25/02/2018 17:55

Well if your kids used it didn’t they rip it?

I think you’re being petty here. It was done in the hold, these things happen.

steff13 · 25/02/2018 17:56

Is it under warranty? Certainly it was meant to lay more than one year with average use.

Nicknacky · 25/02/2018 17:57

Wouldn't the best thing to have done is contact the airline at the time it was ripped? Wasn't your ex h's fault.

And is it completely unusable?

Quartz2208 · 25/02/2018 17:58

Did they fly - it could very well be luggage handler damage

Nocabbageinmyeye · 25/02/2018 17:58

Very petty

steff13 · 25/02/2018 17:59

Last not lay. 😒

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surlycurly · 25/02/2018 17:59

It was done when he flew with them. I simply can't afford to replace it at the moment.

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rothbury · 25/02/2018 17:59

I am confused - why would your XH be responsible for the luggage your DC own and have damaged?

If one of the DC accidentally ripped a t shirt he had bought them, whilst they were with you, and he asked you to replace it, I assume you would laugh in his face?

steff13 · 25/02/2018 18:00

Does the rip make it unusable, or is it just unsightly?

Klobuchar · 25/02/2018 18:01

Bit petty. But if you can’t afford to replace it then you probably won’t need it for holidays.

Bigpizzalover · 25/02/2018 18:01

If he takes them away several times a year I presume he pays for it and that could be quite expensive, more than the cost of the luggage. I think with this one you need to bite your tongue and replace it yourself.

The handle of my pram got damaged in the space of me checking it in and collecting it on the other side, that would have happened whether it was me using it or dcs dad.

rothbury · 25/02/2018 18:03

Ask him if his holiday insurance policy covers damaged luggage. Mine does.

Otherwise if he takes them away again he will have to replace it I guess. If you can't afford a new case then obviously a holiday will be out of reach Sad

DalekDalekDalek · 25/02/2018 18:03

How is it his fault? Unless he ripped it? If you want someone to replace it then it should be you DC as they were the ones using it.
Seems a bit grabby tbh.

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surlycurly · 25/02/2018 18:04

He is supposed to use his luggage when he takes them. Generally he's too disorganised to send it over in advance so I have used ours. He's not know for taking care of things and has returned several items of clothing ruined. He doesn't respect anything that I buy. But I had no choice on the luggage front- they needed to take their stuff in something.

One case is ripped but it's still usable, just aesthetically rather unpleasant. The other one is unusable.

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GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 25/02/2018 18:04

I think your being unreasonable it's not his fault it's the baggage handlers/airport

MsVestibule · 25/02/2018 18:05

Is it usable? If not, you'll just have to ask him to provide suitcases for when he takes them away next.

Is asking him to replace them worth the grief? It's unlikely it's him who caused the damage anyway.

MsVestibule · 25/02/2018 18:08

But I had no choice on the luggage front- they needed to take their stuff in something.

Just tell him that as the suitcases are now unusable, he'll have to provide some for their next trip or he won't be able to take the DCs away.

Idontdowindows · 25/02/2018 18:10

Travel insurance? Contents insurance? Claim with the airline? Claim with the manufacturer?

I mean, stuff gets broken or ripped when in use, that's quite normal. If it can't be claimed somewhere, that's just bad luck, but not something that is his fault.

Anyhoo, as he is the one that takes them on foreign travels, he can buy the next set of luggage.

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surlycurly · 25/02/2018 18:10

Thanks for the opinions! It would cause more hassle between us in an already unpleasant situation. The kids stuff can go in ikea bags from now on and he can use his own suitcases. And no, a holiday isn't looking likely but I do visit family here using the suitcases so it's pretty annoying.

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Nicknacky · 25/02/2018 18:13

Did you try claim from the airline/airport?

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surlycurly · 25/02/2018 18:17

No, the cases went straight into the garage after the kids emptied them after the last trip. I only moved them to where they live yesterday.

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loveka · 25/02/2018 18:18

If it was damaged in the hold you can claim from the airline. I have just done this with Air France.

Nicknacky · 25/02/2018 18:32

How did you not notice they were so badly damaged then? How did the kids, your ex and yourself it notice the extent of the damage?

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surlycurly · 25/02/2018 18:48

The ex wouldn't have cared. DC took the cases downstairs after they emptied them. I only noticed when I was putting them back together as they tidy away inside each other. Just spoke to DD and apparently she did notice, Just failed to tell me.

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