A few years back now I threw DP out because he was temporarily out of work for a few weeks while the place he works from (self employed) was under going unexpected maintenance, but despite not having money coming in he was going to the pub at 12 midday and staying there til late night and not doing a thing around the house. The final straw came when we were supposed to be going out for tea, but he had a last minute invite to a friends birthday drinks instead so chose to do that. I couldn't go as it was far away and I had work early the next morning so I said I had enough of him acting like this and told him to leave. Anyway, after he came back a week later, I had found out he had been texting a family friend (well, his aunties step daughter, aged 30) about our disagreement and the details. we aren't close to this woman, but see her maybe 3 times a year at family gatherings.
So, currently I am having problems again with him and posted a few weeks back www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3164819-To-resent-DP and had lots of support. I decided to challenge him on it, and he has made life difficult refusing to change anything, refusing to talk about it but he says he's doing nothing wrong. I have finally given up and I know at the end of the joint tenancy we have we will go our separate ways.
It's going to be difficult living with him in the meantime but blah. Anyway, we have been texting each other whilst at work, me basically telling him it won't work until he implements changes and how sick I am of his attitude to me and disrespect.
I found out he has text this woman again all the messages we exchanged telling her I am batshit - ha ha! After I asked him the very firs time he did this never to text her again, I am so pissed off and any glimmer of us sorting our differences and remaining together have definitely vanished now but I was just wondering if IABU?